No close friends

[Seekingaslapbabktoreality]

Something has happened in my family recently that has made me realise that I actually have no one that I am truly close to.

I don't want to go into details but I was never really close to my mum growing up. Our relationship change a good bit when I was 18/19 and we became closer. I talk to her about a lot of things where I wouldn't before but she never really confides in me. She has a sister and a friend that she will go to before she will tell me anything. I have no sisters but she will be more open with my brothers than she is with me.

I used to think I was close to my brothers but recent event has shown me this is no longer true but that they still have this amazing bond between them. I had a slight argument with one about something and he straight away rang the other to turn it all on me. The other then didn't want to speak to me. We have since kind of cleared the air but now to me the relationship is completely changed.

I've never gotten on with my dad.

I don't have a best friend that I can really open up with. I have one friend but we really only talk about our kids and daily life.

I have a wonderful friendship with DH, but as discussed before we don't have the full package.

I am starting to feel like I just don't belong in my family. That maybe I am just different.

I'm so sad because I don't even have anyone to talk to about it. I feel like I should start distancing myself from them now and just try get on without them but it's breaking my heart.

It’s diffi when you feel isolated. Please feel free to talk with me. I might not be much help but I can listen

Thanks Emmy

I just feel so sad today because I feel like I've been thinking I was closer to them than I am. Like they understood that they didn't have this closeness with me but that I've only just figured it out. I feel really stupid.

is It something you feel you can talk to them about?

Maybe you just aren't "open" enough? They don't feel they know you; maybe they think you're happy with things the way they are because you haven't said otherwise.

Do you think you can speak with your brothers about feeling isolated? Or is that going to start an argument?

Single I actually feel like I'm too open sometimes and don't get the same in return. They have each other and I'm on the periphery.

After I had the disagreement with one of them he was straight onto the other to talk about me and then the other one wouldn't even answer me when I called him. When I did eventually get him he immediately back him up without even hearing what I had to say. Taking my words out of context.

I feel like just completely backing away and just not contacting them anymore

Emmy that would just start an argument about me being a "precious" girl and wanting attention.

I've never gotten on with my dad. I feel like he was always very different with me.. less forgiving. They don't get why I dislike him so much. They think they way he was just affected me more than them and that I've "never gotten over it"

Backing away might be better for you as feeling like your left out is a horrible feeling. Maybe back off and see if they make any effort. I have two sisters that did the same to me which made me feel left out and unliked which wasn’t a nice feeling. Are you able to open up to your partner and talk about how you are feeling with your family?

I can talk to my H about pretty much anything although I think he doesn't like to get involved in my family issues.