Should I cut my losses?

[footballwidowww]

Been seeing a guy for just over 6 months, we both have kids and have just recently introduced them (to us - they haven't met each other yet). And things seemed to be going well - until the bloody world cup.

I knew he liked football and he follows a team etc., but he went on holiday with his kids and some family yesterday - no issue with that at all - and we spent a lovely Friday afternoon with his kids. But in the evening, rather than us go out/see each other, he wanted to watch the football. I was a bit that rather than have a nice evening together before he went off he'd rather sit in and watch the game but I didn't object - if he wants me he'll choose me, right? I would have thought that this early on he'd be choosing me over stuff like that though

He comes back next Saturday night and I know the final is on Sunday.

My question is - if he wants to watch the game instead of meeting up, should I cut my losses and make my excuses as I don't want to be a football widow. I just don't get it... Or am I being a snowflake? Is this what most guys are like? My ex wasn't into football at all so no experience of this whatsoever. I was just a bit stung at his decision on Friday and it's made me think... will this be a life of coming second place to a patchwork ball?

I wouldn’t be able to be with someone who was obsessed with football as I really hate it. Luckily my DP hates it even more than I do, and my last 2 ex’s were uninterested too. I would say in your partner’s defence that these are some really big games for England. If he were to cancel plans with you to watch a standard run of the mill match then i’d be more inclined to tell you to leave him. But if he’s passionate about football then maybe just cut him some slack during the World Cup (as irritating as it is)

I think you are being unreasonable. The World Cup only comes around every 4yrs and England are doing so well. Cut him some slack and go off and enjoy the day with some friends if you're not into the footie.

YABU

It's the world cup. It only happens once every 4 years and afaik England never does this well. (I'm not English, correct me if I'm wrong)
If it was Leeds united at the start of the season I'd say different but let him off on this one

Me and my husband got together a few months before the last world cup. He's been a nightmare this time round but I don't remember him being bad last time - I've told him if he'd been like this last time we probably wouldn't have stayed together.

Good news is that he's generally lovely and I don't regret marrying him just because it appears he loses his mind for a few weeks once every four years.

We'll have a nearly 4 year old next time so I'll see how he manages that!

Yabu. It's not like he is watching is every evening fgs. I hate football don't get me wrong but I wouldn't spit my dummy of the pram just because someone didn't want to spend a few hours with me for an evening. I'd enjoy the peace to be honest!
Your not a football widow, and dumping him because of a few hours every week while the World Cup is on kinda makes you look like your a rad high maintence!

YABU
The World Cup is every 4 years , get over yourself.
There is a 50% chance as of today that England may be in that final next Sunday - for the first time in 52 years - it's a huge achievement football fan or not.
On the flip side - I work for a professional football team, my boys spend all bloody weekend playing it and every bloody night has been the World Cup - I feel your pain as it totally gets 'too much' and it's not fair to be so one sided in a relationship - but getting annoyed purely over a handful of world cup games - YABU

This the World Cup. It happens every four years. Even more rare that England are in the semifinals. I love football and would prefer to watch the match than have a meal out with my dh.

What strikes me though is that you’re not discussing it with him but rather asking a group of strangers. It seems pretty immature that you’re planning to dump him without even voicing your concerns. If he plans to drop you for Villa v Birmingham on tv on a Saturday night (assuming neither is his team) then I can see your point. Can’t you ask him how much football takes up:his life? Explain that you want him to prioritise you.

It depends on whether he is otherwise a nice guy who gives you plenty of attention and you fancy him. in which case this might not be a dealbreaker. Or is this part of a pattern of him prioritising his needs over yours, in which case it’s a red flag.

I suppose England are doing very well... I'll cut him some slack.

Wow... interesting how passionate some people are about it. i was looking for perspective and being a bit jokey. No need for the insults. Like I said, I'm not into football so I'm not sure what the norm is as I've never dated someone who is totally into it.

YABVU! But I think you’ve realised that! It’s the World Cup so a big deal. Don’t let it ruin what seems to be a nice relationship

My sister hasnt seen the guy she was seeing for 5/6 weeks because of the football apparently. Though I think its an excuse, so could be worse!

Football is a deal breaker for me, I hate it. But I wouldn’t be 6 months in with a man who had a team or ever wanted to watch the stupid game. If you’re okay with that then I think the World Cup stuff is inevitable.

What’s he like about football vs the rest of life usually? That’s what you need to think about. If he’ll want to go and see matches or watch it on tv a lot while you’d rather do anything else then you’ll have problems.

My mum, who never usually likes any sport has got big into the World Cup which has shocked me, people are getting caught up in it and that’s okay.

It’s the rest of life I’d look at.

What are his DC like and what’s he like with them? As a step parent I’d be far more concerned about how all that stuff is!

Thanks purple I think I knew that but not quite how big a deal it can be!! How has this frenzy escaped me until now??

If you can't beat them, join them I suppose

Anne no issues with his parenting at all and he and his ex very civilised.

It was really the other points you made that made me think. I want him to continue to enjoy his life, with football in it, and I want to continue to enjoy mine. I'm not in the slightest bit bitter about it but I don't want it to be something that becomes an issue iyswim?

However, point taken, its the World Cup which is a big deal and only happens every 4 years so I'll "get over myself!"

Well that’s a very promising

The World Cup may only be every 4 years but I understand there’s a lot of other football going on throughout every year! If you like theatre, walks, eating out, Morris dancing, documentaries, whatever, then is he going to invest as much time in what you enjoy as you might have to with him and football? Time apart doing what you both love is grand but don’t fall into being a football widow if every social arrangement, every weekend is going to be a battle or planned around him watching millionaires kick a ball around a field on the telly.

I don't care about football but it really hit me yesterday that it definitely made me an alien! Went to the beach and hardly anyone there. Walked in the town centre afterwards and OMG, it felt like a gosh town! Shopping on a Saturday afternoon has never been such a wonderful experience!

So yes, I'm afraid you're an alien too if you don't get it!

Yabu. Seriously!! I don't even like football, I acknowledge it's a very exciting time for the fans atm though. Cut him some slack!

I agree with others I don’t even like football, but it’s the World Cup!
I think you’re massively over reacting. Just think of something you really like that’s only on the TV every 4 years and then you might try and have empathy?