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manicmummyday · 07/07/2018 22:29

I don't know what I expect from this, I'm just a bit lost and lonely.

DH has walked out, phone off. To be honest he's never done this before, but over the last few weeks it's like something has changed.

Tonight it was he was looking for a fight, he seemed to start it out of no where and when I stood up for myself he said he was leaving, he then proceeded to leave DD and I in tears.

I've had a text since then saying he can't believe he ever loved me and he's off to his mums.

I'm sitting here, in an area where I have no one just feeling crap.

For disclosure he's having a hard time at work, but he's said tonight he doesn't lobe me, he hopes I fail at life, he hates me, wants to punch me.

I don't have the right words, but I fear if I don't hold onto the wall il fall down.

I just thought I would reach out.

OP posts:
RainySeptember · 08/07/2018 08:38

I've been there so I'm not being flippant when I say it's time to toughen up and swing into action.

IME men get more nasty as the divorce process progresses so the fact that he is making threats and being very cruel right now tells you that you have a tough ride ahead.

While he's out, sift out any paperwork that you might need later. I'd suggest mortgage statement, life insurance policy, savings/investments, pension, any outstanding loans, recent payslip.

Tomorrow make an appointment to see a solicitor. You need to know where you stand legally regarding moving with your child, and what financial settlement you can expect.

Start thinking about what you want to happen next : you back home near to your parents, or you in this house but with him gone.

You're not allowed to say 'him realising he loves us and us all going back to how it used to be' because it won't happen. Once he has displayed utter contempt, that's it.

It's awful op, it really is, but on the other side is a life where you aren't walking on eggshells or seeing kindness as an unusual thing.

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 08/07/2018 12:07

How are you OP, I read your thread last night and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Lots of good advice on here.

How are things today? Flowers xx

Gruffalina72 · 08/07/2018 12:26

Thinking of you today. Hope you got some sleep.

I have been there where it feels like leaving is impossible, but I promise you it's not. Things get better on the other side.

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