He cheated

[goldenlady21]

I have found out that my OH was sleeping with his ex wife for (at least) 18 months. With this "affair" ending earlier this year. I am 30+6 weeks and obviously this news hasn't gone down well this morning.

I appreciate its probably weird come here to talk about it but I feel like I need to but not sure I can talk to a friend or family.

He is saying he did this purely to "maintain access to his son". Which I am aware is utter bollocks. He was able to maintain a relationship with his 9 year old son prior to striking up a physical relationship with the Mum.
I just don't know what to do or feel.

Has anyone out there had anything similar. I am so confused, tired and hormonal. I feel pretty lost now.

I am so sorry. I have been in a similar situation in that I found out my husband had been unfaithful 6 weeks before I gave birth. It was slightly different because it wasn't an affair but I knew something had been going on and he had denied it for so long. It really is an awful time and the only thing I can recommend is to take your time and decide how you feel. You will probably have lots of people telling you what to do but you don't have to decide anything right now. Just look after yourself and take one day at a time

Oh my darling!
I know it’s hard especially when pregnant but you don’t need that sort of man in your life. It’s bad enough to cheat but to try and justify it with pathetic excuses is just insulting.
Pack your bags and dignity and leave his ass xx

Betty74 Pack HIS bags.

What a complete bastard. And to get you pregnant at the same time! This guy is not your friend. You can't trust him at all.

Send him on his way

A man that acts like this is not fit to breath your air

My ex the father of my youngest when I was 3 months pregnant his ex text him and I found out he was having sex with her the while 10 months of our relationship and the day before that text. He’s come home from having awx with her unprotected and then with me and I was having his baby.
Roll on 4 years later he did it again with her
I stayed again and she meet someone else and she moved on
Then he used to tell me if I don’t do everything he tells me he will cheat on me again

So I left our home our business and too my 3 children with me and struggled badly

Don’t stay with him he will do it again if he can do that to you when pregnant for that long he doesn’t deserve you

BTW my ex carried on cheating on all his GF after me and before me

Thank you all for your words xx

What AF said.

What a nasty piece of work and what a insult to think you would believe his BS about the access! I know your in the latter stages of pregnancy but you need to see this for what it is, a lucky escape! You will be so much better off on your own.