Is it cheating ...

[tessie31082]

Long story short.
Started as FWB then we both started to get feelings (I did but not so sure about him now)!
Anyway, he says he loves me (I certainly have fallen for him), but I've seen messages to other girls saying how nice they are and basically saying he wants sex with them! I don't believe he has yet but it's the thought he's thinking it and saying it to them! Should I just cut my losses now and not see him anymore?
Thanks for reading!

It’s not cheating because he’s not in a relationship with you. He’s playing you by saying he loves you so you keep letting him have sex with you.
“I love you” are meaningless words unless his actions also reflect them... he is begging for sex from other women. He doesn’t love you and yog need to sack him off pronto

The lines between FWB and something deeper have become blurred now. For your own peace of mind you need to dump and move on.

You can move from FWB into a full relationship if you both want to, but he's already shown you can't trust him, so why would you want to? He's saying one thing and behaving in another (very disrespectful) way. You deserve better.

In the words of the gambling commission slogan: When the fun stops, stop.

Sorry though OP, it really sucks.

Thanks ladies - I know you're right

Unless you're planning on asking him outright if he wants a relationship with you and do things as a committed, monogamous couple, cut your losses.

He's telling you that he feels for you and you're saying the same but unless you both are going to do this, you're both within your rights to 'play the field'.

Sorry, didn't say on original post that we've been in a 'relationship' for 6 months after being FWB initially!

It sounds as if he just doesn't want a monogamous relationship with you. He was telling you what you wanted to hear when he agreed to embark on a relationship with you, but I suspect he really didn't mean it and is still considering you as an FWB.

Only you can decide whether you're happy to put up with it.