I have a crush on my colleague

[karolinakarolina]

I have a partner and a daughter.
I work in a hospital and I see a lot of men every day but there is one guy that I fancy and I do have a crush on. At first I thought it was just me and I was looking at him and fantasising but since about 3 weeks ago he really has been acting different around. He always glares at me, even when im not looking I can feel his eyes on me.
Whenever we’re in the same room there is such strong chemistry and I know its just not me its him as well.
thw good thing is that i only see him once or twice a week at work so i can control myself for the rest of the week.
the big problem is that i have a daughter and a partner and hes in the same position.

I dont know what to do or think about this I know for a fact that its not just me, i get a lot of men looking at me but not like that this is different.

please dont judge me - im not happy in my relationship but i dont want to hurt anyone. i know a lot of you will judge but please dont.

He glared at you? Why do you think he likes you?

As long as you fully appreciate what you have at home and are happy then just know that the feelings for this other man will pass.
It is natural for men and women to be attracted to each other even if they are married. Being married doesn't mean the flirty side of you is dead. Acting on these feelings is a different thing though. These feelings do pass eventually.

I’m a bit confused because if someone glared at me, I would assume I’ve annoyed them? Not that they like me. However he could also be glaring because he is annoyed he has chemistry with someone and can’t do anything about it?? Just a thought.

No ones gonna judge you I’m happily married with 2 kids. But I still flirt with blokes also like you say get strong connections with them/ think about them sexually. There was one bloke tho my partners best friend where it went wrong and happend. Apart from that these no harm in flirting or think about someone sexually.

No ones gonna judge you betty74 I’m happily married with 2 kids. But I still flirt with blokes also like you say get strong connections with them/ think about them sexually. There was one bloke tho my partners best friend where it went wrong and happend. Apart from that these no harm in flirting or think about someone sexually

You need to address the problems in your existing relationship before contemplating a new one. Becoming involved with someone at work is fraught enough if you're both free, never mind if one or both of you is attached.

Why are you not happy in your relationship? Do you think this is something that can be resolved?

You need to put your crush out of your mind for the moment and focus on where your present relationship is going.

@betty74 that reply was for you x

Hi everyone,

Just interested in finding out how people on here compare themselves with their siblings.

For me, I guess my problem stems from the fact that I am a twin and we were always compared with each other growing up. I was always the cleverer one, got better exam grades etc etc

Fast forward 20 years and he has a great job with great pay, lots of responsibility and people look up to him, great social life etc but also manages to juggle kids. I on the other hand had to give up my half decent job to raise young family and probably feel at the other end of scale to where he is.

Any advice to stop me feeling like a complete loser? I do try to appreciate what I have but feel completely insignificant next to him.

@Jo6134

I would suggest posting this as a new thread in the Relationships topic as responses on this thread will be to the Original Poster. MN thankfully isn't one of those forums where you get told off for starting new threads .