He hasn't come home

[amilosingitor]

Can't believe I'm writing this. He went away last Friday. I asked no questions and thought he'd learnt his lesson. Yet here I am again, no idea where he's been, no idea where he is, phone is dead. I'm 35 weeks pregnant. We have 3 kids between us. I know I need to leave but I have nowhere to go and my kids have already been through hell this year. How do you turn love into hate because I can't stand to love him anymore.

I mean he went awal last Friday and didn't come home, not away!

I'm heartbroken. He's ignored me since before lunchtime yesterday

He has been gone for a full week?
Do you know if he has been at work?

Wait, when did he go AWOL? Last Friday, as in a week? You don’t know where he went?

But he’s only been out of contact since yesterday?

Is there a pattern here? What lessons did you think he’d learned?

Any person that can leave their heavily pregnant partner and disappear off the radar for a period of time is not a person who is going to be a supportive, engaged partner and father. Who’s caring for his kids?

Please tell me he hasn’t just fucked off leaving you almost ready to give birth caring for his children? If I’ve got that right then that’s all you need to know to hate him and bin him off tbh.

Inconsiderate and selfish! I think I said the same last week too

Oh, there’s a pattern? I’ve not seen any other posts by OP.

No sorry, he didn't come last Friday either - he's been back the rest of the week. I didn't ask questions. I accepted that he appeared thoroughly disgusted with himself but clearly I was an absolute idiot for falling for it. And now he's done it again.

One of the kids is his. But we live with his parents so I guess he just figured they will pick up the slack (I'd rather do it myself mind because it's not her fault) but he doesn't expect it of me. He's just acting like he's lost the plot all of a sudden and there is no getting through to him. He just ignores continuously

This is my fault now. I'm taking this shit. I'm enabling it because I don't know what the hell else to do

What would you like to do?

Start there, and then you can figure out how to do it.

Haven't read the backstory.
What did he say when he came back?
Can you talk to his parents?

I'm confused, so did he go AWOL last Friday and then came back again? But you didn't question where he'd been?

And now he's gone AWOL again since yesterday? Why could he be leaving every Friday?

How have the kids already been through hell this year?

Has he got another family somewhere? Why do you live with his parents? Could be relevant if he has no money due to supporting another family. I don't think you should put up with it. Is there anywhere you can go?

Been through a court battle with the kids dad this year which has been tough on us all. He doesn't have another family no. We live with his parents because we could no longer afford our house due to the legal fees during court.

He's just out with his prick mates. He's not regularly going to some other women on a Friday I know that much. I just don't know why he does this to me. I can't fix it because what I WANT is to stay and for him to realise what he's doing and stop, but I know he won't and I just can't face it. I really don't have anywhere to go. His parents do nothing but enable him too.

Does he always go out on a Friday and come back again the following day? Is it just like he's boys night out, once a week. Or is there more to it?