Feeling Invisible

[CiaoBellaCiao34]

My DP is severely depressed and says he has no sexual feelings, so we have no sex life. He doesn’t even want to masturbate, he says. It’s been like this for 3 years now. We have sex maybe once every six months.
I love him and I don’t want to leave him, but this is killing me. I feel so ugly and unattractive. I used to get a fair bit of attention from men, and suddenly I’m getting none at all ever.
I know that sounds stupid. I don’t want to cheat on him, but neither do I want to live the rest of my life as an asexual.
What do I do? What can I do?

bump because I seem to be invisible here too

Sorry to read that things are so frustrating at the moment. You say he is severely depressed. In what way? I would suggest that as frustrating as things are for you, the priority is his mental health. The issue of his libido won't improve unless he addresses these issues? Have you discussed him seeking help? Is he willing to?

In the meantime, I would suggest you still spend time on yourself to make yourself feel attractive as you clearly need the little confidence boost. Perhaps give yourself a pamper day if you are able to. New outfit, new hair do etc etc. I know this doesn't make up for what you crave right now but that is something that isn't going to be an overnight fix but you can do little things that will make you feel better in yourself

Been there. Should have left earlier. Still feels like I wasted those years. So I would leave. Maybe if he gets help for his depression - if that is the reason all I know it's not you - it could work after that.
It will eat you up from the inside and will only take much longer to get yourself back together after you've finally had enough.

You bumped up a thread after 10
Minutes ?

Maybe look at why he’s depressed ?

Is he doing anything to manage his depression?