This is the first time I’ve ever posed a question on a forum, but I am so flabbergasted at the last few mo this I suppose I am looking for reassurance.
For 12 years I was with a highly controlling man, who also had a nasty temper and a vile mouth. Of course there were good times, but eventually the bad was overpowering the good. I was at the stage I couldn’t do anything right and everything in the relationship was blamed on me smoking weed.
The abuse ramped up after Xmas this year and I very nearly had a breakdown. Luckily I saw a counsellor and side stepped what I believe was a plan to destroy me, have me sectioned and take my children, and take all the family finances in the process.
In Feb whilst next to my husband in the van, I reached into the glove box for a mint, I pulled out a clear pouch with three unused condoms in it.
I looked at my husband “Er wtf?”
His slightly flummoxed reply was they were for wanking in the van before work...I was shocked, I didn’t really believe it. 5 mins later he was shouting abuse at me about other stuff.
After I left him a month later, he started to tell people I was a paranoid schizophrenic and these condoms were a paranoid delusion I had recalled, an event from 8 years ago when our son was born and he was using them then because we weren’t having sex. ( we have never used condoms in our relationship, and I was sterilised 6 years ago)
He has since involved social services by going into the children’s school to expose my cannabis use ( man also smokes and likes mdma, but obviously never mentioned that)
He told SOcial services in a meeting together, that I had planted them there myself as I was a highly manipulative woman with undiagnosed mental health issues.
My life has been turned upside down because I tried to break free from him. Friends have sided with him and a whole school playground are gossiping about my mental health.
Anyone been through similar who can just make me feel sane again?
As screaming the truth isn’t helping as no one wants to listen.