We split up 8 months ago. We have two sons. 2 years old and 1 year old. I can't move. A) no rentable places i want will accept me on benifts. And how could I afford the deposits anyway B) the council will only offer me a high rise flat. ( I'm sorry if I sound stuck up but I refuse to move into one, I would not feel safe and already suffer anxiety and depression, I think it would spiral into suicidal thoughts. I already know id rather die than to to move my children to one, it's where I've been brought up to see as the rough places and typically see the rough folk around the area too (god I sound like a stuck up cow)
My ex isn't financially helpful other than what he HAS to give For the children.
We get along enough to live daily (argue most weekends when we are in the house more and cross paths) with split lives so we hardly ever cross other than to have the children off the other one etc as if we weren't living together. He's also an arse who won't move as it's technically his house as single named on mortgage. He's now asking I move or pay rent which just isn't available in my financial situation. If I move I get help with rent. 75% of the real world amount of rent though. So it's gonna be tight.
I can feel the tension is building and tbh though he's never physically abused me I believe he would hit out if it got heated as he's cornered me Before.
I'm stuck on what to do. Even all the furniture is his. How can I escape this hell of stuck in the past with no way to move on. I've wanted to move from the start. I don't like him one bit. Unfortunately I would have moved In with family but none have room for three of us. :( I also have no reliable proper friends to fall on either.
Sorry long post. Just hope someone can help.