Rejection

[peuree]

For those of you who like me have a fear of rejection and this is strong enough for you to devise all manners of tactics to not have anyone be able to reject you - who have you managed to disclose this to? Have you found it hard to talk about it/let people know? And how did you manage to get past it?

It's a bit of a prison isn't it? xx

Yup. it's probably one of the deepest fears one has. And hence I suppose my question - how to hell and with whom does one actually be able to say it out loud.

The only person I’ve ever told is my husband and that was after counselling.

Dealt with being rejected all my life and getting together with him later in life it was important for me to tell him as early on he’s done a few things that made me want to run so I didn’t have to go through it again.

I wouldn’t have a problem telling anyone now, but that’s after a hell of a lot of counselling.

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Thank you for sharing that. I hope you felt better after telling him it sounds you did. I sense it as a deep emotional fear. It's almost like it governs other decisions unconsciously. And yet there's almost a "shameful" thing about saying the simple words I fear rejection or I am scared of rejection.

Reminded me of a poem by Maya Angelou.

Peuree....it does feel better, it’s more like I’m at peace with myself knowing that it’s my worst fear because it’s happened so many times, starting with my parents and then continuing through life.

Saying it out loud didn’t cure my fear it just made me understand myself a bit more.