Can this work?!!

[notfeelingit1]

Me and dp where together 7 years
We have a daughter who is 3

We’ve had a tough year and decided to split up in April. He has DD twice a week.

He’s been dating someone, I’ve been seeing someone casually.

But I still just miss him terribly nothing is the same without him, and now he’s saying to me he wants me back, the woman he’s seeing is pushing for more and he’s saying he doesn’t want anyone else he can’t be with anyone else. I also feel this way

Is there any going back now we have slept with other people? I don’t know what to do I miss our family life but don’t miss how bad things got, maybe we shouldn’t have just given up on each other

Help :(

Bump

I think it's worth trying. You decided to split and saw other people whilst split. Now you both realise you want to be together.

What were the issues and have they been addressed?

Only you two can decide. You were not together when you were dating someone else. You need to sit down together and really talk this out.

We just argued all the time he was always working 7 days a week and never spent time with us, since we split though he’s been a total tosser taking his new woman around all his family and kind of like trying to make me jealous sort of thing?.. bit petty.

She’s asking him to be official apparently and he wants to break it off with her because he still loves me..

I just don’t know what to think anymore 🙄🙄🙄

Is he still going to be working 7 days and week and not spend any time with you and DC?

If he's been parading new woman around friends and family, he obviously can find spare time when he wants to.

Hmm my ex also finds the time to do what he wants but is always too busy working when it's stuff that doesn't interest him. Have you spoken to him about it? It corner have to be all or nothing, it can be a mix and see how it goes. Male sure he does his fair share etc

How about he breaks it off with her and is single for a while? He could have the children more often. You could do that for six months or so. Wouldn't that be a brilliant way to show that he is more involved?

Interesting that he only decided he wanted you when she turned out not to be as good as he thought. I wonder when he will next find someone better. Will you stick around as his backup gf then too?

You bumped it after 2 minutes? Sorry how old did you say you were?

Jesus NotTheFordType, had a bad day?

Yes, it can work. You have a kiddie so give it a try with clear boundaries.
Good luck.

I’m 28 not that it’s any of your business don’t comment if your going to be rude

No harm in trying if you both want that but I wouldn't rush back to living with eachother until you're really sure, date him again and see what happens, you don't want to upset your DC by having him leave twice

If the issues that caused you to break up with him in the first place have been resolved then maybe give it a try but if not, what is the point of going through all of that a second time only to break up again?

Personally I have never found going back with an ex to end positively but you may be lucky.

😂@NotTheFordType

Sometimes situations like this are a wake up call to what's really important.
If you try again , and I hope you do , this will be a new relationship.
It will take work and forgiveness.
But if you put the past behind you it could develop into something most couples only dream of.
Good Luck x

No harm to trying to work things out. Can you both go to counseling together?

I had to laugh at how some men don't have time to do anything since they work 247 but always manage to find the time to find someone new to shag.