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Nudes

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Sbuyher93 · 05/07/2018 13:05

Ok I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We were 19 when we met young immature and sometimes send each other nudes. Now I'm 25 and I was checking something in his email.. with consent! When I found about 30 naked pics of me some I had sent but 90% of them were without consent. He has some of me sleeping drunk and some were screen shots from snapchat... but these were all in a label's tab in his email. I feel super sick but do I really have the right to be upset?

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:07

Yes you do, try and delete the photos as soon as you can (delete out of recycle bin too). Not sure if you can report to the police but he shouldn’t be taken the photos especially if you are naked in them

BasicUsername · 05/07/2018 13:08

YES you have every right to be upset! What the actual fuck does he think he is doing, taking pics of you naked without consent? I'd be beyond furious.

Also, why are the in his email?! Delete them, and then empty his deleted folder afterwards. Then ask him where else they are stored.

Things like this can come back to haunt you in the event of a break up.

Check his sent box too -has he sent them to anyone?!

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Sbuyher93 · 05/07/2018 13:18

I know like we were so young, atleast delete them now that your a grown ass man

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SparklyMagpie · 05/07/2018 13:20

Why did you not delete them when you found them?

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Sbuyher93 · 05/07/2018 13:23

I did

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Sbuyher93 · 05/07/2018 13:25

But I just felt so uncomfortable I froze. I dont want it to be a comversation

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RatRolyPoly · 05/07/2018 13:27

Do you think he's ever shared them with anybody?

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Sbuyher93 · 05/07/2018 13:31

Never... I just am so just disgusted

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RatRolyPoly · 05/07/2018 13:41

I think that's understandable, and I think you need to tell him how it feels to know he has taken pictures of you like that without your knowledge; how violating that can feel. Because he needs to understand.

Mousefunky · 05/07/2018 13:49

I deleted a guy I used to be good friends with that’s also my tattooist on social media because he posted a photo of his obviously drunk girlfriend naked... I felt so sorry for her, it’s a huge breach of trust.

Are the pics recent or from back then? If the latter it’s slightly more forgivable but as uncomfortable as it is, a conversation about it definitely needs to happen.

SparklyMagpie · 05/07/2018 15:00

Sorry OP I was rushing out,but I don't think any of us on here would feel any differently to how you are now

Bang out of order, and to know he has photos you were not even aware were taken

I'd be feeling sick too and I'd be questioning whether I could stay with a man that could do that to me

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