Any advice about hen-pecked BIL?

[SueBaroo]

I've already asked about this in chat, but I thought I this seemed a bit more of an appropriate place to post it.. the problem is here

Any advice beyond what's already there?

Ther are always 2 sides to every story. No-one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe she feels angry with her dh because she knows that he's discussing their relationship with his brother and you.

She doesn't though, that's just the point. She doesn't know anything about the phonecalls to dh. She gets arsey enough about Bil talking to dh on the home phone about their parents or football or whatever. He doesn't have any friends he can talk to besides dh.

maybe he needs a bit of counceling or to take up a hobby that can help him gain a bit more confidence.(if he chose counceling he could possibly fit it in during work hrs)

He has to be firm with her for his own sake & the sake of their marriage but that is easier said then done i suppose if you are in an abusive relationship, poor man.

Could you possibly suggest you & your sil doing something together so that she had something else to focus on?

Sil has a busy social schedule already. I've tried suggesting things, but she's not interested in Bil's side of the family.