My husband and I are separated but he has moved back into the family home, he had been staying at a friends. Things have been reasonably amicable, but he brought up something earlier and it's playing on my mind as I honestly don't know if he's being unreasonable or whether he has a point?
Last year my grandmother gifted me £10K, this is the amount she was leaving in her will to me, but she wanted me to have it now as she wanted to see my enjoy it. I opted to buy a car and I part-exchanged my old car as part of the deal. At the time my husband and I were virtually separated, one of the reasons the marriage has ended is because he goes out on a Friday and doesn't come back home till a Sunday or Monday and after years of this I finally had enough. There were other issues such as him not working consistently, not contributing financially (over a year he paid £1000 towards all the bills) and his inability to just be a grown up. When I decided to purchase the car using the money my Grandmother had given me, he asked me for my old car, it was in great condition and I knew I would get a good price for it part-exchanging it which meant I could get a slightly better newer car. I therefore said no to him as he was hardly living with me and our daughter, by this stage he hadn't contributed financially for over a year and any money he earned he spent on himself. His own car had previously been impounded by the police as he was driving without insurance (he failed to tell me he had got behind with the direct debit), I paid £1000 in police fines, impound fees and insurance fees to get his car back. He then had another debt, this resulted in a bailiff coming to the house to take stuff away, I coughed up £400 for that , he paid me that back last month. He then failed to pay his road tax on the car and ignored letters about it, so it went to court and he was fined, he has never paid the fine, I'm paying it in instalments to stop another bailiff coming to the house. His car blew up and couldn't be fixed, he has since had to rely on workmates to take him to work, when he decides to go. When my Grandmother gifted me the money she asked me not to give my husband the car, she likes him but she can see what he is like. So for once I was I guess a little bit selfish, I did think about giving him the car, and to be fair he did say he would buy it off me, but he didn't have the money at the time and I wasn't sure I would ever get it. This evening he brought it up and told me I was out of order and I should have given him my old car and as a result got myself a cheaper car with the money I had.
Was I wrong ?