Should I report this after 2 years? **potential trigger warning**

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I was seeing someone for a couple of months and the first time I stayed over I think he drugged me. I had been drinking a little bit but nowhere near enough to be as out if it as I was.

I can remember a few details but I won't go into it, but told him to stop a couple of times and he did- and then threw a wobbly. I was feeling a bit woozy but told him that he was behaving appalingly- the getting in a strop because I'd told him to stop- and went downstairs. I slept on the sofa on and off for a couple of hours because I was likely over the limit- and drove home in the early hours of the morning.

This hasn't had a negative effect on me, and really I've only thought that he might have drugged me in recent months when I've thought about it properly, some other bits of what I recalled at the time have slotted together.

I'm not bothered about reporting it to the police for my sake, I don't want to pursue it on my behalf but would it be worth getting in touch to tell them about it in case he has/did try with others who had a worse time than me?

Not sure what to do for the best.

Nobody can answer that for you, OP. I recently recorded an historic rape and I'm glad I did. It's not easy to remember. It's unpleasant to recall. I believe I wasn't the only one. I am the only one to have come forward. He is now on a list. I know what happened and it was horrible.

The police were very kind and it provided a kind of closure just being believed. There is a huge amount of shame, fear, guilt involved.

Should you report, you should be referred to an ISVA (Independent Sexual Violence Advisor) who will guide you to the appropriate support and through any court processes. You will also have access to specialist counselling. I didn't think I needed it. I was wrong.

Tiger. It was brave reporting something that you knew would be uncomfortable to remember. Sorry that you had such a terrible experience.

I think I would like to report it because I don't think he went as far as having sex with me whilst I was out of it but i worry that if this wasn't the first time he did it (or even if it was) that others before/after me might not have been so lucky. However i don't know whether the police would be that interested in what I have to say and whether there just isnt anything in my experience that would be useful to them if someone else has a complaint against him with more evidence.

Realistically the police may not be able to progress an investigation much further than you giving a video statement, but the record of you reporting it would remain.

I would second all that WellDoneTiger said.

You don't have to justify wanting to report it. (You wouldn't feel you had to have a robust justification for reporting any other kind of crime, after all).

Take the course of action you can live with. Your motivation of wanting to protect future victims is common (it was what pushed me to report), and valid.

Will it continue to niggle at you and worry you that he might do this again? Would it give you peace of mind to know you gave the police the information you had in case it ever proves useful in a case?

If so, you don't need any other reasons. In fact, you don't need any reason other than "this is the right decision for me", either way.

It's also pretty common for people to take time to come forward about sexual assault. They won't be surprised. You won't be wasting their time, this is what they're there for.

if something is on your mind, it is worth reporting. I really struggled. They want to know which bit of them was in contact with which bit of you, so if you felt his erect penis against part of you they will want to know which part. If you found clothes missing, they will find it useful.