Still not over break up 2 years after - please please help.

[BunchOfWildFlowers]

STBXH left 2 years ago. Divorce in final stages. I didn’t want any of this to happen. I don’t think I’m over it. I would love to move on, have a new relationship, but something keeps me from making that step. I’m ok mostly, but sad still.

I’m pathetic. I can’t hate him.

What has helped you move on? Please tell me.

You'll get there. It takes bloody ages though.

Online dating helps. Get out there and meet some new people.

But that’s the exact step I can’t seem to be able to make. I’m scared.

Or do you mean just do it although not ready?

2 years really isn’t long. Don’t beat yourself up. It takes years to get over a long relationship.
It’ll happen, it just takes time and you can’t really force it

Finding some contempt for him will help you along the process.
Where's your anger?

Have you refilled your life with things that have nothing to do with him?

You will have spent a lot of time in the relationship thinking of him, doing things for him, spending time with him - what has replaced that for you, so far?

I go get angry at times but I find it hard to not think about the divorce. I’m sad more than angry.

I’m trying to do things but I hate being alone. All my friends are married/with partners. Weekends are bad. I was pregnant when he left, I so want a baby.

I hear that op.

Do you have any creative hobbies? I ask because for me, that's what replaced my marriage and helped me form a new identity outside of "wife". It really really helped...