Online dating etiquette.... WHAT'S NORMAL?

[wishywashy6]

Hi ladies, after a bit of wisdom here please!!

I've been single about 7 months, quite happy on my own however thought I'd broaden my horizons on the man front and just see what's out there and joined a coupe of online dating websites.

I was with my husband for 14 years then with someone else casually after for around 18 months so maybe I'm just totally clueless but I'm finding that:

1. I get 100's of messages - not a problem in itself but you kinda know what sort of guy you'd be interested in so I tend to not respond to the ones I know I wouldn't be. Then I get bombarded with messages calling me ignorant... am I expected to reply to everyone? 😳
2. Guys I get chatting to seem to instantly assume I'm their girlfriend .... like sending me morning messages full of kisses/ asking when we're meeting blah blah and completely creeping me out - does chatting automatically mean you're dating?! Is there no in between?!
3. Everyone's weird 😂

I say nothing remotely flirty as I'm afraid of giving off the wrong impression (as in unless I genuinely fancy someone I don't want to give them the idea that I like them in that way) but I'm struggling to find middle ground with anyone!
I have a lot of male friends so I thought I kind of understood the male mind to some extent but clearly not!

Advice? Tips? What am I doing wrong?

I've tried POF, not terribly impressed! I thought Tinder was just for hook-ups, which is a bit terrifying! (I'm prepared to be corrected on that!) And I've never heard of Badoo! I shall look it up...thanks 😉

Tinder’s what you make of it - I’ve only dated one person on there and he’s been my boyfriend for a year now! In a way I found it better than Match because on there I found soooooo many men who were determined to make me into the love of their life after about three messages. Nope!

My ex husband met his new partner on tinder, they've been together 2 years and they seem very happy haha!

I think like another poster said, it's what you make of it. Sure there are plenty of people on there who are just there to hook up but not everyone is there for that