If you have to say you don't fancy someone, you're flirting too much!

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Hi, Do I win the argument or not?
John and Joan work together and have a good friendship. Both married, Joan has expressed some unhappiness in her marriage, though not recently, John appears very happy. It's a banter'y work place. Joan has recently started telling John that he's not her type, she doesn't fancy him etc...
My argument is I have never had to say that to any male friend so therefore feeling the need to say it means that the banter (hate that word, sorry) has gone a bit too far. Either Joan thinks John has the hots for her or it's a way to excuse the flirting in the work place.

Yes this is my work place and no I'm not Joan or John!

With such things I can see why the person might want to throw in a disclaimer to avoid any misunderstandings. Not sure why you're bothered about it though? If you feel it's inappropriate behaviour then report it.

Are you John’s wife?

Rightly or wrongly If I flirt with the women I work I balance that out by some way General micky taking or something asking about their children or DH

And this is reciprocated as it's all banter.
Apart from Anna and we would definatly do each other if left unrestrained. Lots of sexual tension there...