do I end it now when I want children and he doesn't.....

[MNersThisIsBigMother]

....or love him until the day he does and I don't...I really love him.

ta PG and evenhope...had a long chat with dp yesterday and we've decided to leave the subject for now and talk again about it in 12 months. I'm happy with that as it will remove the tension for now but not bin my hopes for good. you've all been a great help. thanks again.

Sorry, but walk away.

Don't be like me.

Move on.

There really are a lot of men out there who don't want children.

I ended a marriage becuase he never 'changed his mind'.

And you know, I'm glad he didn't.

The very least I can do is try to provide my kids with a father who really wanted them.

Tales from people who waited to have kids and did it successfully in their late 30s and 40s are all well and good, but a) if you don't want to wait then why should you? b)what if he NEVER changes his mind c) for everyone who successfully conceived and bore children then, there's probably at least one who hasn't.

Go with your gut and walk.

I'd give him 2 years

simply because even if you walked away today its highly unlikely that you would find someone, fall in love and be secure enough with them to have a child n the space of 2 years anyway,

so spend the 2 years building a stronger relationship with the man you have and when a little closer to 30 he may change his mind.

My dh didn't want any more children and it really was a sticking point. I said that if he really didn't, we couldn't stay together as I'd just end up feeling bitter. We now have 2 dcs. I don't think age should be an issue. our combined age is about 100. Do we get a telegram from the Queen?

One of the questions i asked my dh before we got married was did he want to have children, i wanted to make sure i knew exactly where i stood and it sounds like you do too & that is perfectly understandable.

I would try & talk to him again about this & involve financial issues too, maybe you could say do you think we could afford to have a baby next yr and see where that takes you. If his reply is that he doesn't want one then ask him for his reasons, get to know exactly why he doesn't, it may just be a financial worry to him, i don't know.

I'm not sure what i would do if he said he really doen't want any children. I would certainly give him some time to hopefully change his mind but i suppose it is down to how much do you really want another baby.