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Money Question

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tigercub50 · 03/07/2018 00:24

I do regret it now as DD9’s behaviour has been challenging lately but somehow she wheedled me into letting her adopt a penguin from the WWF with some of her pocket money. DH says that 1. With something like that, we should discuss it first & 2. Now if she misbehaves & we take pocket money away as a consequence, she will still have the penguin. I can see where he’s coming from but my argument was that she would still lose the rest of the money ( £5 a week which I am beginning to think may be a bit too much).
How does it work in your household? Do you try to discuss all your purchases ( within reason)? We have separate accounts if that’s relevant.

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pisces7268 · 03/07/2018 00:46

It seems like this is more to do with the parenting side than money?

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tigercub50 · 03/07/2018 07:38

Bump

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tigercub50 · 03/07/2018 10:13

Any thoughts?

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HuckfromScandal · 03/07/2018 10:15

How much did the penguin adoption cost?
Is this an ongoing cost?

Shoxfordian · 03/07/2018 10:18

Maybe have other consequences for misbehaviour so it doesn't impact on penguin?

We have a joint account and separate accounts: both work but no children. As it's out of her pocket money and you agreed how much to give her then I don't think it's a problem though

RedDwarves · 03/07/2018 10:23

The pocket money spent on the penguin is money she has already earnt though, correct?

Money she "earns" or does not earn in the future is irrelevant. If you give your child $5 a week and they save to buy a stuffed toy, for example, you cannot then remove the stuffed toy when they misbehave, but you can dock their pocket money at that moment in time.

FinallyHere · 03/07/2018 10:34

Has your daughter really signed up to adopt a penguin at £5 a week?

OK, Ive looked on the WWF website, and seen that you can choose how much to pay that the money is taken monthly. I would have concerns about a child donating in this way. An adult can understand that it is a marketing ploy, to raise funds for WWF. A child would believe that it really was an adoption and would be less aware of the total cost over time.

I agree that it would make sense to discuss any ongoing commitments that the child wants to make, before letting them go ahead. Especially as you say she wheedled you into it.

Actually, I am more concerned that you have children but do not seem to run any kind of joint account to fund them. This seem to be o be a very bad idea, i cannot imaging how that would work. Apologies for the derail, but honestly, I couldn't not mention it

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tigercub50 · 03/07/2018 10:37

The adoption is £3 a month, so I said I would give her £2 pocket money one week & £5 the other weeks. We’ll probably adopt for a year.

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tigercub50 · 03/07/2018 10:38

DD does have her own bank account

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