Can I send this text to casual guy?

[casualannie]

In casual relationship with guy, basically just meet up and stay over as and when usually it’s spare of moment and just once was arranged 24 hours in advance. All good he hasn’t lead me on I know exactly what it is.

I usually just okay by ear and wait for him to contact me etc but texts are very few and far between

Thing is I’m free this weekend, kids away so would really like to arrange a meet up rather then leave to chance.

Do you think it’s ok for me to send a breezey message just asking if he’s free Friday? And if so when should I send it?

I want a little control over this even though it’s casual and want to use him when it suits as much as he does

Yes. Why are you waiting for permission? You're not asking him to marry you, just plan your weekend.

If it's a non-runner, I'd probably cut my losses anyway. There is a difference between casual and massively inconvenient.

Of course, take control over your time. Tell him your dc are away and you'd like to see him. Job done.

Yeah why not! It's just casual, so worst he could say is he's not free.

of course it should be ok for you to contact him aswell, otherwise you're just his beck'n'call girl

Yes.

However you sound more invested than him so watch this

Great I will text later

I'm really enjoying the meet ups, but do plan to knock it on the head if I start to get feelings etc, I'm just concerned that I don't want to just be at his beck and call and would also like to be able to call on him as and when it suits... guess I'm concerned about coming across like I'm chasing him or something I just want to meet him for sex

You're doing the exact same thing he is. So if you don't feel he's chasing you then you shouldn't feel like you're chasing him. What's good for the goose and all that

guess I'm concerned about coming across like I'm chasing him or something I just want to meet him for sex

That's annoying isn't it, a guy can call whenever he wants but if a girl calls she must be getting feelings because there's no way we'd just want some no strings attached fun pfft

Trinity66 it's really annoying, he's been very upfront about what he wanted and I happily agreed but yes I do feel like ball is always in his court and I almost want to get control over that

Honestly, if he only wants to meet up on his terms or say so I would let it go, it should work for you both not just him

I'm concerned about coming across like I'm chasing him or something

Who cares what he thinks?!

The two of you are not in a relationship, so why does this matter?