How to tell DS (4) that we are separating

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I’m not sure how to approach this with DS . Ex is planning on having 50:50 but I doubt that will materialise once real life kicks in

How do I broach this with DS? I have tried to gently discuss it with him and say Daddy might go and live somewhere else, that we will still be a family and that wont it be fun to have 2 bedrooms but he just cries and actually said “you are breaking my heart”

The relationship is definitely over, it needs to be for all kinds of reasons but mainly because DS deserves a happy stable home which we are not giving him together.

He says he doesnt mind if Daddy isnt there all the time, he even said “I will have a talk with Daddy”. I don’t know of its best not to mention that Daddy wont be living with us and just tell him he will be having sleepovers with Daddy

Thats really sad, can I ask how old is he?

My son really loved his dad, but, he was a horrible piece of work and with my DS only being young he didnt pick up on any of that.
Eventually though he realised that daddy wasnt going to be around anymore because he was "naughty" but it was such a difficult situation for me because his dad was ceasing all contact.

DS is 4, just finishing his first year in reception. He is quite senstive and the type to sob over the most minor of things. God, this is the worst bit ...,

If you can, tell DS together, united. He may well get upset so reassure him that you both love him, but that you don't want to live with each other any more. Readsire him that he'll spend tine with you both.

I wouldn't make it too heavy or long, or go into details of why - explain in an age appropriate way. Be prepared to answer any questions he has.

Let him be upset, listen to his fears & worries, let him know he can talk to you both. It's normal for this to hurt - he has his own grief process to go through, just like you & DH.

Readsire = Reassure!