So im currently 9 weeks pregnant, been with my partner a year and yes everything started off great like it usually does! I have a 6 year old from a previous relationship so it was important that he was good with my son which he was!
He is a nice guy but when he is horrible, he can be really cruel, telling me how im fat, constantly pushing me to join a gym, telling me im not a strong woman! I put all this aside and tried to see the good side of him but, words stick and a part of me always thought that he must really think that if he says it over and over.
Anyway these are not excuses but more of a lead up to why things happened, I felt low, so small and no self confidence so when I met someone who made me feel like that (started off as friendship) i guess I got caught up and I made not a mistake but a stupid, messed up choice! It was only once but, the condom split and here I am now pregnant and unsure who the father is.
My partner (ex now) found out and I paid over a grand for the non invasive prenatal paternity and will find out this week if its my ex partners or not. He has said he hopes its not his child as then he can get on with his life, even though he wanted a child to begin with, then he has told me if it is his we will sit down and discuss a termination which I am not going to do! Before he was telling me that if it is his then he would be there!
So as I said he is now my ex, which I do not blame him for at all but, he said he still loves me and if this baby is his then he wants me to prove to him for 2 years that I am still worthy of another chance because I honestly did just make a stupid decision in the moment and didnt really think it through, but I did regret it straight away!
For 2 years he wants me to have as little contact with him as possible and stay away from any other men which I can do no problem because I do love him and want to make it right.
Yesterday though, he told me that he met some other girl the other night (his brothers work colleague) and shes gorgeous, and tiny, so tiny she could sit on his lap all the way back on his coach journey(basically im not tiny) and i now have some competition so if I ever want him back I need to up my game! But this has just made me feel like i have to compete with some other woman and I dont want to do that! Hes still going to be flirting away,and who knows where else things will lead, whilst im trying to prove myself to him, I know i cheated and its my fault we are in this situation but, I just wanted some advice, no criticism please, I am already feeling crap enough.