Is it weird to have ex at wedding?

[Weirdornot]

DP and I have just got engaged! Woohoo! Wedding planned for next year, it’ll be a small affair just 25 guests max.

Thing is, he has 2 grown up dcs and I have 3 dcs.

He is on good terms with his ex wife and I am friendly with her too. My ex, not so much. Although we keep things civil for the sake of the dcs.

I’d like to invite dp’s Ex to the wedding but is that weird? Will she feel weird about getting an invite? After all, it’s one thing to be friendly for the sake of children and grandchildren but is it rubbing her nose in it to invite her to our wedding?

Nope. If it works for you who cares.
My STBXH's ex was at our wedding, she helped their son with his best mans speech.
We went to hers. It was all good. She's still a great friend now.

Depends if she’s genuinely happy for you or not. If she’s being civil for the sake of the children, then probably not.

How old are the children? Could they be there unaccompanied, or (if too young) could another friend or relative chaperone them for the day?

I would assume she wouldn't want to be there. Who, really, wants to see their ex getting married?

Well Id happily go to my exes wedding. all depends on whether you've maintained a friendship and if there is zero biterness left

I was invited to my ex fiance's wedding and I was flattered. I was in a different country otherwise I'd have definitely gone. Maybe talk to her and make sure she knows that you won't mind if she says no.

Speak to dp and see if he is okay with it, if yes then both speak to his ex? I think it's great yous all get along so it's worth an ask

I find it quite odd to be honest, but it’s your choice to make.

I think it’s lovel if you are genuine friends. Some relationships just don’t work out. My parents are best friends and if either remarried and wasn’t invited to the others wedding I would be shocked. Do what feels right, speak to her before you send it. If she doesn’t want to come or thinks it’ll be odd she’ll let you know.
Enjoy your planning and congratulations xx

I'd say it to her like this "There's an invitation there for You but it's 100% up to You, we won't be offended at all if you don't want to come and will never mention it again but we would personally love to welcome you at our wedding and celebrate our day with you."

It's a lovely idea, and a credit to you all that you get along so well. My brother invited his ex and her second husband to his second wedding - they've always worked hard to maintain a good relationship after they divorced, for the sake of the DCs initially, but they are genuinely good friends now.

"There's an invitation there for You but it's 100% up to You, we won't be offended at all if you don't want to come and will never mention it again but we would personally love to welcome you at our wedding and celebrate our day with you."

This is brilliant! Thank you so much! I think this sums up exactly how I feel. I’ll chat it through with DP and if he agrees, we’ll put it to her like like.

I 100% thought you were asking if it was ok to have sex at a wedding

@EstrellaDamn
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I mean, obviously it's a yes 😆

estrella I got that on my first read aswell!!

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I always read titles twice because I often misread them !!

It sounds a bit weird, but if you do all get along genuinely, not just for the kids sake, then yeah let her decide if she wants to go. She may say no though, so expect that.