Partner refusing to accept relationship is over

[Shjmam]

Hi ladies
I'm new to this site and needing advice who's on the same wave length. Here goes
I've been with my current partner for almost 2 years until a few months ago I found him on lots of dating websites exchangin pics etc texting and emailing other woman I tried to end it but he was just so persistent that he never left the home promising to change I have recently told him I cant get over it its tearing me apart still to this day and am constantly paranoid that he's still upto stuff anyway once again he still won't accept that I want to end it. He has been violent towards me in the past and has been to prison but again I'm soft and let him worm his way in. Genuinely looking for advice feel so weak about everything. Thanks

I’m sorry your going through this.
I’d contact the police just ring 101’say your scared and what can you do ?

Makes me lol these men treat women bad but then can’t let go

Xx

Shjmam, your DP is violent and he's cheating on you. You need to get rid of him. Is there anyone who can help in real life? You need to ask him to leave and if there's someone there when you ask him he'll find it difficult to refuse.

If he kicks off then call the police. You say you're soft as if this is a good thing. It's not. If you don't stick up for yourself no one else will.

There are regulars on this site who are experts on all the steps that will help you get rid of this piece of shit. No doubt someone will be along soon with excellent advice. Good luck.

In the meantime, why not read the very useful thread at the top of the Relationships board: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/698029-Right-listen-up-everybody?

Thanks for your replys. I don't have much family so no one to turn to which is why I came on here for advice. I didn't mean I am soft in a good way I'm just a push over and I know that's a massive down side but yes your right I do need to stick up for myself. My fear is phoning police might prompt him to become violent. Best about it its my house and he still refuses to leave and says it's my fault he gave his house up xx

phone police in a safe place as this is your home not his. if you can change the locks too.

there are orders you can get to, to stop him harassing you as well. lawyers tomorrow to see what you can sort out.

Phone police to remove him, lock doors from inside. Pay for a locksmith to come out tomorrow. You owe this wanker NOHTING. Get rid or he’ll up the abuse, you know it.

Go to a police station or ring domestic volume W helpline when he’s not around they will help you xx

Here is a link to the National Domestic Violence Helpline, Shjmam. The number is 0808 2000 247. They and the police will help. As it's your house they should be able to get him out immediately. You just need to get your courage together.

In your shoes I think I might just go to the police station and ask to speak to someone about domestic violence. They will know what to do.

When you say it is your house, do you own or rent? I second calling the police and asking for domestic violence help.