Dodgy new DP for nephew's mum?

[AuntieGeek]

V short version.

New chap of my DNephew's mum stays over when DN is there and also smokes weed. DBIL (DN's dad) does not like this one bit but has only just had the evidence. Circumstances makes custody for him pretty unviable but DBIL's mum might be able to do so, or we could, but we're in a different county and a bit of a trek away.

I've suggested DBIL gets a Clare's Law request in as it's clear new chap stays over when DN is there.

Would like the full force of the MN collective wisdom in case there's anything else I could or should be doing.

DBIL wants his boy safe and growing up in a suitable environment. All advice much appreciated.

Is he smoking weed in front of nephew? Encouraging him to try it? If not there is absolutely no issue and certainly nothing that would result in a change of living arrangements. Boyfriend staying over is not an issue and unless his father has something a lot more substantial than staying over and smoking weed occasionally then dragging nephew away from his mum to live with his grandmother or in a different country seems an extreme reaction!
Has new bf endangered nephew is some way? There is nothing in the OP to suggest this. Seems like the father is reacting to his ex moving on, rather than a genuine concern for his son. Particularly if he not considering have the child actually live with him.

Suspect he might be smoking in front of kids but no evidence.

Am pretty sure DBIL isn't in possession of enough evidence to say one way or other but there has been a smell of it outside DN's residence.

I think the concern from DBIL is who is having a lasting influence on DN's day to day upbringing (DBIL is in a studio flat and residence would be problematic). Weed is still class B drug and DBIL is dead against it.

@ThingsDoGetBetter many thanks for your input. Not having a disinterested sounding board at home is hard.

Is this happening in a rented home? If nothing else, smoking in the property might impact a tenant agreement so that could be used to stop it happening in the home?

So all he's basing it on is a smell outside the house? How often has he smelt it? That could be anyone. The neighbours, teens walking past. Some with Parkinson's using it medicinally. Anyone!
At the very worst, if it is bf he is having the decency to do it outside.
Has bil actually spoken to the mum or just jumping to conclusions?

And Facebook posts that new chap has put up.

Thanks both

So you think it merits her child being removed from her care that her partner smokes weed but not around the child? No. As long as he's not doing it around him it's none of your business.

You can't remove a child from their mom just because her partner smokes cannabis