DP just pushed a broom at my face

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Three kids under 7 and Dp does the bare minimum. I can count the number of times he has put them to bed on one hand. He just lets me struggle. Today I’d had enough, after I had made them all breakfast, and he went upstairs to lie on the bed watching TV, I went up and told him how upset I was. He said “don’t worry, I know you hate me” I replied I disliked him, not hated him as he just lets me fend for myself with the kids.
The rest of the morning was him stomping around, banging bin lids and shouting at the kids. I told him to stop, he got so angry he picked up the broom in his hand and shoved it towards my face. He then went into another room still ranting, I went to close to door and he said “get your hand off this door. This is my house, get your hand off my door” I told him to stop and went to close the door, he grabbed it off me and swung the door open. He said it again. So I’ve taken my kids to my mums as I felt threatened physically.
We aren’t married. This is his house. I’ve only made a few improvements on it. I feel sick to my stomach. Can’t stop crying

Please don't go back, you are worth so much more than living with someone who treats you like that.

You are feeling physically threatened because you were physically threatened!
He's a bad partner and a lousy father. You need big girl's pants now. Monday morning you need a lawyer or CAB, an appointment with local housing office, submit a claim for for child maintenance. Take it one step at a time. Make a list and tick off as you go so you can watch yourself become independent from a man who threatens you, shouts at your kids and calls it his house after 3 kids together who he doesn't help care for.

Never ever go
Back to find fucker

He’s a lazy abusive prick

Sit down and look at your situation
Make a list of things you need to sort
Housing
Money
Child support etc

Work through the list - make a plan. Go to see a solicitor or the CAB

You’ve done the best thing by leaving.

Good luck xxx

I’ve come back as can’t stay at my mums. Approached him to talk about it and he denies the broom incident ever happened and said I hated his guts. Which neither are true. He’s being completely impossible and won’t admit any wrong doing. Apparently I need anger management. I’m raging

Why couldn't you stay at your mum's?

She’s not wanting three kids and me in her home. 7 yr old just asked if we’re splitting up and he said “ well your mums rude so that’s what happens” she is no in tears. I absolutely can’t stand him. I’m so angry

Do exactly as thingsdogetbetter said.
Arse hole he is.

Don’t put up with this. He doesn’t help and is lazy and is now making it all your fault. Go get proper advice. You can’t stay with him and carry on living like this!

You need to get out love, this is no way to live and an awful environment for your kids.

What Thingsdogetbetter wrote here.

He has merely projected his own issues onto you; abusive men always but always deflect blame and fault from their own selves. BTW anger management is no answer to domestic abuse issues and you do not need AM.

Your children cannot afford to learn such damaging lessons about relationships. You and this man need to be apart asap.

This is awful.

"Get your hand off my door" - this is what he thinks of you and your life together. Hear him and act accordingly.

"Your Mum's rude so that's what happens" - what an arsehole. You need to leave as soon as possible for yourself and your children.

Good luck!

Yeah. Will be time getting out. I have no job, I won’t be able to until my youngest is school age. Feel like I’m in a living prison.
I’ve told him if it makes him feel better, he can blame me all he likes. I just don’t want him to talk to me anymore. Stay out of each others way.

You need to find out your real options before you resign yourself to staying until youngest reaches school age. You may find you have more options than you think. Again I advice you to speak to CAB, housing and benefits. You don't have to make an instant decision, but knowing what you can do will take away the pressure and fear of the unknown. You could also look into what you will need to enhance your ability to find work. Ask council about free course and look into online courses. Be proactive so if this happens again you've got your bases covered. Knowledge is power.

You can’t stay with him
It won’t be easy to leave but will be far far better than staying
Go to CAB tomorrow- find out what you can do
Does your mum know what’s been going on?? Can’t you stay with her even for a few days??

Posts like this annoy me. You've gone back into a situation with your children! It's not about you, your kids come first and for there sake you shouldn't have gone back. You've clearly resigned yourself to not doing anything until your youngest starts school.
Do you want to your children to think it's acceptable to A) treat a person like this, as they'll be soaking all of this up and could possibly lead by example years down the line, or B) That it's ok for THEM to be treated like this as it's 'normal' as mummy and daddy have the same relationship.
Take it from someone who know's what that is like. Your first port of call tomorrow is the local council to find emergency accommodation, then get your ducks in a row.

Bit harsh @girlwithadragontattoo. Where would you suggest she goes with no money and no evidence of abuse? Her mother has said she can't stay. Emergency accommodation is difficult to get. She knows she needs to leave for both her children's and her own sake. By all means encourage her to go to council for housing but being annoyed is not helpful. I'm crossing my fingers the council will have something available and accept her as unintentionally homeless. She needs to do what she can to get her ducks in a row, but she can't just pack a bag and leave with dc and no plan.

Do you have access to the child benefit and tax credits at all.

woman aid today if you can they usually have places of safety for you and the kids to go to. they can also sort out with you any benefits you can claim.

if he gets violent again phone the police.

Thingsdogetbetter why can't op phone the police??? Exaggerate if necessary to get them out and her children to somewhere they can relax and not have to live like this? Seriously I'd be moving heaven and earth

When you say it is his house can you explain further? Did he buy and live in it before you met him,and is it the case that you then moved into his house?

Even so, presumably when you moved into his house you had no DC then ? or did you?

Essentially, when you took up residence i his house was it by common agreement that it would be the family home?

“Posts like this annoy me. You've gone back into a situation with your children! It's not about you, your kids come first and for there sake you shouldn't have gone back. “

Posts like this ^^ annoy me.

Why guilt trip a woman who doesn’t actually have anywhere to run to? Her Mum can’t / won’t have her.

Believe it or not it is bloody difficult to take flight with no planning, no ready cash, 3 kids, on a Sunday afternoon. Women’s Aid can take a while to get back to you. They don’t always have emergency accommodation for people unless they are in extreme danger.

And as for lying to the police....

Far better for the OP to get herself sorted out with advice, paperwork, somewhere to go.

Oh, and Women’s Aid guidelines for supporting people in difficulty is specifically AGAINST haranguing and criticising.