Left me for another woman

[cockadoodledodo]

My partner of two years was due to move in with me at the start of June. I thought everything was good and we were moving forwards. Except on moving in day he didn’t turn up. Didn’t answer his phone. Mutual friends were evasive when I got in touch and told me to leave it. It was never called off by him.

A few days later he was on instagram with a new partner, pictures on her page show this to be a fairly established relationship so he picked her over me and cheated. She is in the dark over me it appears.

Since then I’ve not been able to switch off from what happened. I hate him/miss him and every possible emotion in between. He was a controlling man who and I’ve lost myself along the way. I’ve never felt this low about myself, I’ve coped with worse but this has rocked me to my core. I try to keep busy but it isn’t working.

Greendale, it’s obvious now that friends knew what was going on.

I would love to tell her but feel guilty that I could potentially wreck his future happiness in the rare chance that I’d be listened to. That’s how messed up I’ve been the last month. And I’m worried about any repercussions if I got in touch. I keep alternating between being angry and then being devastated thinking he left me for a reason and will make a proper go of things with her. He has hurt me more then I ever thought was possible and I’ve allowed it to happen.

Sweetheart, you didn’t let anything happen. He knew exactly what he was doing and wanted. Men like this never settle. A pp mentioned these people who do what your dp has done have something missing - I one hundred precent believe this.

A guy I had a thing with 7yrs ago (both of us were separated) is still pulling this shit on women. He has let out his property to move in with his latest woman after separating from the previous one in Jan 2018. Obviously letting out his oroperty he can move back in anytime it goes tits up. I find it amazing along with being happy I never hung around to be hurt like he has hurt alot of women.

Try to keep yourself busy. Hugs 💐

Let'sdo, thank you for the hug. Its incredibly difficult seeing her doing things in my place. I should have been at the christening not her.

My head says he has a long relationship history. But I see him offering her everything he refused to give me and it reinforces that I've lost someone I cared about deeply. I wasn't even worth goodbye.

I need and want to get over this as quickly as possible. I’ve lost the bulk of the friends I socialised through this and have young children so meeting new people is difficult. I close my eyes and I see them together. I wake up and wonder what they’re doing. I keep picturing them kissing. It’s an endless loop.

The best revenge (and good therapy) is to write a really honest novel about your relationship and dedicate it to him when it is published.

Ha ha, Racecar. I’m actually a very good writer and as a single mum, need a new career direction. But to be fair, it’s got a crap ending hasn’t it.

He is a shit and always was, his behaviour past and present says more about him that it will ever say about you. The sad truth is, if he hadn’t of upped and left you’d still be making excuses for him and putting up with his bull, he did you a favour.

Ignore the new gf, telling her would just be an excuse to stay involved in his life and to further check out of your own.

Grieve and stay away from social media.

Agent, you're right. I need to use my effort to rebuild myself. I've wasted enough life on him. He will mess up in his own time, leopards can't change their spots