Relationship trouble.

[MamaOfADarlingAndAngel]

Me and baby's father have been together nearly 3 years. Since I was about 3 months pregnant me and him have been arguing about most things. It worries me because all my parents seem to do is argue, make up and then argue some more and I've been severely effected by that.

He and I have broken up a few times and one time seriously in which he was so upset and promising to change it was me who took him back this time. However now we're at a stage where we argue a lot again and we blame each other. I'm not perfect but he doesn't respect me, we're together but don't live together and I see him only once a week usually and he has a problem with me speaking to my friends ' too much'. Some things are super childish.

I'm only 19 and obviously haven't had the best role models relationship wise, I'm talking to this guy and not that I'm interested I don't think, he treats me so respectfully and fairly and always take into account my problems and doesn't under value what i do, he doesn't even know about the problems me and my bf are having.

I've spoke to my boyfriend about it and he said he loves me to bits but I need to work on my anxiety and depression and he needs to work on himself and we both need to work on the relationship. I'm scared that if I end it once I get back to myself after sorting these problems and I have a clear heard, that'll realise I've made a mistake and it will be too late?? I really want it to work but I am kind of tired of trying. Really not sure what to do? Any advice or help will be super helpful.

Hi MamaOfADarlingAndAngel! First of all, well done for trying in this relationship - I appreciate there is love there and that it can't be easy with a little one. Now, you're going to hear this a lot BUT you are only 19 and have taken on so much, so far.

One thing that struck me was the phrase: ''I'm scared that if I end it once I get back to myself after sorting these problems and I have a clear heard, that'll realise I've made a mistake and it will be too late??''

That suggests that you already know the likely answer deep down - that you guys are just not compatible and once you both work on yourselves - you may not love each other / want to be with each other. It happens.

Your main priority now is the child and living a happy life. Think about what it does to a child to see mummy and daddy at each other's throats - this sort of thing can affect them for life.

Salvage what you can out of the relationship and move on - life really is too short to spend it unhappy. Good luck!

@DesperateToPassDrivingTest
Thank you so much for the reply!
I love him so much but I just don't know if I can continue, but I get scared that I'll have made a mistake if I do break up with him.,
Thanks for the advice.

Why not go to a counsellor to talk things through and help get things straight in your head?
Also, if you didn't have good relationship role models, the Freedom Programme from Womans Aid can help show you what is and isn't a healthy relationship, and how to recognise them and how to get a healthy relationship. That could be worth investigating too.

I'm so confused right now. Me and my partner split up a couple weeks ago because I didn't feel like we were a couple anymore. We wasn't living together and he wasn't bothered to come and see us. (Me and his daughter)
He's now so sorry for everything he's ever done, basically dying to get me back. We've been through so much, he was so-disrespectful and selfish, I feel like he's grown a bit but he's said this before. I've been around him a lot the past 4days and he seems to be different but he's talking about getting together and moving in and I'm just scared to take the leap. I suffer with anxiety and depression and I'm really ill at the moment lots of hospital visits and I just don't know what to do. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Thanks.

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