Is my relationship over?

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I've been in my relationship 7 years and am engaged, it's always been a good relationship also like best friends and always done everything together but I'm worried we have actually friended each other.
I know that I definitely love him but there is a clear lack of affection in our relationship we've never been ones for public displays of affection but we don't seem to say we love each other anymore, the sexual spark has gone and it's only occasionally we will cuddle and kiss like we used to.
If I bring this up I know my partner won't be happy he hates discussing touchy subjects I just don't know how we can go forward or even if we can. We have no children and are in our late 20s and I thought I would be with him for the rest of my life but it seems like when I see other couples and their partners are loving towards them and telling them how beautiful they are etc I feel like I want more but would hate to jump ship because the grass isn't always greener! Any advice would be appreciated

If I bring this up I know my partner won't be happy he hates discussing touchy subjects

Sorry, but that's your answer. If the two of you can't communicate about things that are important to each other, that's not a good relationship, in my opinion.

Yeah I don't think it's a good basis for marriage if you can't talk about things either

I’m afraid I do think it’s over. It’s hard to walk away from something that’s just run it’s course but where there are still deep reserves of friendship.
Please don’t get trapped in a lonely marriage where you have to suppress your sexual needs, live without affection and, crucially, cannot instigate ‘difficult’ discussions with your husband. Does that sound like a basis for forever to you?
This doesn’t sound like a loving relationship to me. It sounds like a habit and, if your fiancé is not sufficiently committed to you to have awkward conversations now, then you have your answer. If he won’t fight for your relationship by agreeing to talk then he doesn’t respect the relationship enough for it to continue.
Sorry but I think you hav to be brave now (or later, but with more pain).

Thank you for your advice. I suppose I will have to speak to him about it and if he reacts badly or states the same then I know the answer.
I was hoping maybe we have just become stuck in a routine but I guess I won't know until I speak to him about how I really feel. The thought of leaving him makes me so sad because he's a brilliant guy, good to my family and thinks the world of me but it's a shame we aren't compatible anymore

You say you're both in your late 20s... this is far too young to 'settle' for a comfortable companion. It's not fair on either of you. Be brave and take a leap.

OP 7 years is Long enough to be in a relationship and for it to become mundane and lack the intensity you desire. It doesn’t have to be a case of abandoning ship. Maybe you could suggest a time out or a break to get him to see how serious you are and how you miss the romance and passion. If he can’t face losing you I’m sure he will work towards making the relationship succeed. Otherwise the feelings your experiencing will only intensify as time goes on and if you were to marry him regardless it will most probably fail as one comment above mentioned you have become a comfortable habit to each other. you both have different views of what a relationship needs. If you are friends then speak to him from that perspective and suggest it better to part ways and remain friends before you both end up despising each other in future. I’m sure he won’t hate you for voicing your concerns, after all a successful relationship is based on healthy compromises.

What happens if you initiate more affection/intimacy? Does he respond? This would be a useful sign. It may just be you e got out of the habit and need to consciously make an effort for a while. How he responds to increased interest on your part will tell you a lot