Would this piss you off?

[4walls]

My partner lives over 100 miles away, we only see each other once a fortnight. We have a holiday booked and we both need to save spending money. This week he can't come down as he "has no money" so it will be a month before we see each other again.

Anyway his xbox has just broken so he's saving up for a new one! He earnt £30 today on the side at work and he's putting it towards the new xbox.

Yes!

I could never contemplate going on a holiday with a man that put his xbox toy before me.

This seems very familiar...........

If you are the person I think you are then YES YOUR 'PARTNER' IS AN ARSE. DUMP HIM NOW, AT ONCE - and then get on with your life and meet another grown up who treats you with something like respect.

If you are not the person I think you are then your partner still needs to grow up.

I don't do men who play X-Box / PSP full stop. But that's just me.

To the OP - yeh that would piss me off!

4walls, yes, know your situation. WHY are you STILL with this guy exactly?

4walls is the chap who "lives with his mum and dad so you can't visit" - you msn with him a lot?

If so, I have to agree with Rosa - this looks like another reason to just get rid and get on with your life without the selfish git.

If not I do apologise - but yes I would be extremely annoyed if my OH put an x box before spending time with me, especially if you only see him once a fortnight.

Are you going out with a ten year old ?

Um, franklyI don't know how you can call him your partner!

Sounds more like a casual acquaintance.

I'd dump him - he clearly doesn't see you as no. 1 in his life.

Frankly I couldn't imagine continuing in a relationship with a man who was so emotionally immature as to prize an XBox before me. How old is he FFS?

Dump him and move on.

If I may play devil's advocate...

Maybe he's just not very competent. This is different from being bad. Some people like being the "grown up" in the relationship.
Is that you ?
That's a question of self knowledge, you're not a bad or stupid person whatever the answer.

If you see "leadership" in your relationship as a good thing, then you can be happy together.

Successful relationships aren't just based on "admiring" your partner, be it looks, brains, or their popularity with others.
You're going to have to lead this guy, if that is good for you, great.

Else walk.

Get a grip.
Oh,and a life 4walls.

He is our DP, he lives 100 miles away, and you know exactly what he saves his money for? I have no idea what my DH who lives in the same house as me spends his money on. AS long as I get my holiday with him, I'm happy.

Actually, he is your DP.

this scenario seems very familiar