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I'll keep this as brief as possible - I am at the end of my tether with a difficult ex.
Long story short, we split 18 months ago after 13 years together after she met someone on line.
Since then, she has racked up several thousand pounds of mortgage arrears, has had a string of relationships and distanced herself from our children to the point my eldest daughter is an emotional wreck and starts all her visits to me in tears.
She demands I look after our dogs while she spends weekends away with her new guy, continues to spend money like water whilst spending almost no quality time with the children.
She speaks to me like I am mould - any time I don't do what she wants (often unreasonable or with no notice) she threatens to "go legal" and "ruin" me.
I don't know how to speak to her - If I am dispassionate, she accuses me of being "arsey"... If I try to be nice I am "trying to wheedle my way back in"....
I have lost my job through trying to keep up with her demands, and have had to get whatever work I can - which is barely enough to pay my bills and keep up with her demands.
I am at a complete loss - what can I do to get through to her what she is doing to the Children, who used to lover her but now want to come and live with me full time?