Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

I'm really struggling to stay positive after the worst break up of my life?

4 replies

MatronicO6 · 27/06/2018 22:28

There's no point in dissecting the relationship on here as I have done so to death in my own head and friends heads and random people heads for weeks. I'm sick of talking about him and what he's feeling/thinking/doing.

But is it normal to go from having an over this, done with him attitude blasting out single lady anthems (highly recommend Lizzo- Good as hell) and looking forward to meeting someone new, to your heart actually hurting and anxiety attacks that we are over???

On top of that there are times when I'm switched off and just not thinking about anything really that I have this overwhelming peace that we are going to be okay and that it will work out. Then the next second when I've acknowledged that feeling, or that notion I don't know what to call it, but once I notice it I feel complete despair that it's not okay right now.

I want to stay positive but I'm finding it so hard, it took me so long to meet someone like him that I had a genuine connection with and it happened without me pushing or pursuing it that I worry I'll never find it with anyone else. I don't want my pain to consume me but I fear it is, I hate feeling this way and I'm aware it's very pathetic but I don't know how to stop it.

Is this normal? I want to see the light but I'm finding it really hard to make peace.

OP posts:
Pandora79 · 27/06/2018 22:36

I think it's normal to be up and down.

How long were you together?

A break up is hard, what's normal is hard to define.

You will get there though. Trust me, I know.

confused5 · 27/06/2018 22:55

Are you saying that at times you feel as if you will get back together?

AnaViaSalamanca · 27/06/2018 22:58

travel. run. and take painkillers. it does help.

MatronicO6 · 27/06/2018 23:07

I don't know if it's a feeling, it's definitely not a thought. It's just a sense, that we are going to be okay. As soon as I have it and think about I am full of despair logically it is over and I know this.

It's hard as we were good friends before we got together and despite the fact it was only 6 months this had hurt worse than my relationship of 5 years ending. I'm baffled.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread