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Bit of a weird one, OLD related

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Storm4star · 27/06/2018 21:31

Will try to keep this concise but avoid a drip feed!

So 2 years ago my ExP left me. For various reasons i was in a bit of a state. Went through a short (3 month period) where I did some things I wasn’t proud of. Basically drank too much and had a couple of one night stands.

One of them was this guy, let’s call him A. He’s younger than me, younger than I would usually go for, but as I say, I wasn’t really in my right mind so to speak. We parted with no ill feeling, I went off abroad for a while. That was that.

Now I am relatively happy single but keep an OLD profile which I check every 3 months approx, just in case some wonderful guy has messaged me. Lol. Went on the other day to find a message from A saying “hey I think we’ve met”.

I responded and it’s all gone a bit weird in my view! He asked me if i’d Be interested in a fwb thing, I said potentially yes cos hey i’m single, not sure I want a full blown relationship right now, he’s hot and we got on well 😉 sounds ok. The age is not so much an issue if we’re not gonna be dating.

But this is where it’s gone a bit weird. He’s messaging me day and night. He can’t stop talking about the one single time we were together, like he has remembered every tiny detail. He’s talking about meeting “at least” once a week. It all seems a bit much for something that’s supposed to be casual.

I feel like it’s weird that he would remember every detail 2 years on. I haven’t done an fwb thing before so don’t know the way it would usually go but his contact feels a bit full on. I’m starting to have my doubts as to whether this would be a good idea and would like to know what other people think.

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BottleBeach · 27/06/2018 21:41

Trust your instincts.

BottleBeach · 27/06/2018 21:42

That sort of thing would put me right off, and I’d tell him so before I blocked him.

Ryder63 · 27/06/2018 21:46

You made quite an impression then! it IS weird, I don't know how I'd feel about it. You say he's hot - so shouldn't be short of willing women? Interested to see what others say!

Storm4star · 27/06/2018 21:54

Ugh, I was answering and my iPad crashed! What I said was, I am under no illusions, I am definitely not some kind of sex goddess! But he’s said things like “I remember where your house is” even though he only came here once and “do you remember us kissing on the sofa” etc. Like really reminiscing, but who reminisces over a 1 night stand? This is why it feels odd.

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SoapOnARoap · 27/06/2018 22:43

Sounds like he’s desperate to blow his beans.

Far too desperate, trust your gut here.

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 27/06/2018 23:30

My take is quite different. I have vivid sense memories and if I remember a really good ONS I remember details - like snogging on the sofa. This man obviously has horny memories of you, OP. Surely that's precisely what you want in a FWB?

MyKingdomForBrie · 27/06/2018 23:38

I'd give it a swerve. It's only FWB so it's not worth taking a risk against your instinct.

AlwaysSleepy1 · 27/06/2018 23:48

could it have been his first time?!

HellonHeels · 28/06/2018 00:13

I think id be a bit creeped out by hin saying he remembered where you lived.

Talith · 28/06/2018 00:27

Young men, like anyone inexperienced, have a tendency to get infatuated. If he is carrying a torch for you after all this time, and you are ambivalent, I'd be wary of fuelling his fire.

category12 · 28/06/2018 05:28

Swerve this guy. Sounds like he'll be trouble.

fuddle · 28/06/2018 20:09

He could just be in love with you or really like you!

Unobtainable · 28/06/2018 20:56

I dont see a problem. He’s obviously just very keen to see you again and you both clearly had a good time. Sounds like he’s using the encounter to fire you up and build rapport.

user1493413286 · 28/06/2018 21:00

It sounds a bit odd; possibly he’s harmless and just really enjoyed the night together but I think you’re going to find he wants much more than a fwb arrangement and will be quite full on.

Storm4star · 28/06/2018 22:48

So, some mixed views here!

I guess I have been considering it because I have had men propose fwb before but they want it on their terms. As in I only see them when “they” want sex which would make me feel a bit cheap and used. At least with this guy he’s more willing to go with what I want.

But then I don’t want it turning “awkward” in some way. Like he’s a nice guy and good looking. If he was maybe 15 years older I could consider him relationship material.

I don’t know. I’m quite busy at the moment anyway so will maybe talk to him a bit longer and see how I feel.

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ByeMF · 28/06/2018 22:51

Trust your gut.

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