OLD.. when do you say you have kids?

[ihavetogoshoppingnow]

I’m cautiously dipping my toe into dating after splitting with my partner of 8 years, I’m only 24 so not at an age where people might assume I have kids or ask if I do so I really don’t know how to approach the subject? When do you mention it?

Ooooh I’ve had the same recently. At first I waited until the first date and mentioned it then, but then I realised that was making me nervous - not knowing what their reaction would be. So I’ve started mentioning it after a bit of messaging. Honestly haven’t had a really bad response - most guys just say ‘oh cool’. No issues. Good luck!

I have it on my profile usually. I tend to find having kids isn't a big deal but when they ask how many and i say 3 then I don't hear from them again.

I actually googled this before and read an article saying it doesn't matter when but if it's only one date and not going great then there's no reason to tell them, but if you feel it will lead to another one then tell them.

I don't see anything wrong with not telling them. I'm assuming they won't part of their lives unless it gets serious?

I'm a lot older than you :) but I always have it on my profile

Mainly because I don't want to waste time with people who go on a date then tell you they don't want to date someone with kids.

On my profile - I think it's a negative being a single dad but I wouldn't want to meet anyone who wasn't cool with that from the beginning.

It should be on your profile from the get go.

As soon as possible.

Some people advise keeping it off your profile in case it attracts men who target single mums; I'm not sure I agree but if you don't want to advertise it then I think you need to raise it during early messaging. Can do it in a casual way e.g. when asked what you do in your spare time you can say you do X, Y and Z and your kids also keep you busy.

I don't want to date men with children and wouldn't go on a second date with a man who suddenly announced on the first date that he was a father. Though of course, there may be people who meet you for a date and like you enough that even if they were unsure about the DC, wouldn't find it a total barrier.

I put it on my profile but I’m sure that I ticked the box that implied they had left home. When I then started chatting to someone I ‘fessed up straight away that they were dependents. Although at 24 you probably can’t tick that box .......

I wouldn't have it on my profile because there are the types who are using the sites to find access to children rather than relationships. I'd rather waste time or a bit of someone else's time than make myself or my child a bit of a sitting duck.