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In laws after separation

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Totallyshockerbeyondbelief · 27/06/2018 07:43

How do you adjust to this

Wanting to be involved with DC major events but actually the split relatively raw & recent and need to establish coparenting unit between the parents first and parents at major events

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Pandora79 · 27/06/2018 07:59

As far as I was concerned I just carried on as normal. Hard as fuck.

My ex pil came to sports day, like they always did. I said Hi, didn't sit with them.

Also my best friend came for moral support for me.

It's not pils fault we split, so I didn't feel it fair to start excluding them.

Depends on the circumstances around the split as well though.

MIdgebabe · 27/06/2018 08:13

I was glad when the in laws contacted me, it helped to involve them more as dd loved them(still does) and ex h wasn't making much effort to keep them in his daughters life. my relationship with them is much better than with the ex. I think they helped that by being really focussed on what was best for dd in any situation

DiscontinuedModelHusband · 27/06/2018 09:11

i'd say, like those above, that unless the PILs are/were a major factor in the split, it's probably worth trying to continue as normal as much as possible (particularly if DCs have a good relationship with them).

firstly, will avoid further disruption for DCs

secondly, means you maintain additional support/babysitters if/when needed

Totallyshockerbeyondbelief · 28/06/2018 05:02

Will be better for DC in long run
Were a factor in split, unusual people and resulting family of origin issues for DH
MIL a strange woman

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