Coparenting after separation

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It’s all new to me

Important milestone event for DC coming up. We made a plan how it was going to be done.

He unilaterally wants to change this plan. I feel bullied. It reminds me of how I felt in the marriage.

How old is DC? Old enough to have an opinion on the matter?

Oh and

No, not able enough to make informed choice.

I think it is what went wrong in the marriage when I started sticking up for myself he walked

Are there any third parties that have a say? School, church?

If not, then I suggest you do not react at all in the way he wants. You’ve changed. He hasn’t, he’s still a dick. Have you told him that the arrangements were organised?

So how was it to be done, and how is he changing it?’ Does it occur on access time with the father and he’s saying you can’t go? What is the event?

Why does he need to make the change? If it's for 100% genuine reasons then I guess you'll have to agree but make sure that he knows it's just for the good of your DC.

If he's just trying to make a show of power then keep strong, or at the very most compromise a little, but don't let him walk all over you.

This is your chance to show how strong you are (and you are, whether you feel it or not!) and to set a precedent.

Good luck

Had amicable discussion
The new plan is in best interests of kids though not mine. Need to think.
Guess in these matters one has to put the kids first?

I’m sorry- yet that’s impossible Le to answer as you’re keeping it cryptic. Vague posting may get you some 💐 but no real support or ability to see it from someone else’s perspective. Even the follow up cuptic posy is martyrish sounding. So maybe you’re right, maybe you’re wrong, but no way to say.

Stand your ground and remember you no longer have to put up with this stuff. If either he or you have suggestions then you both need to agree.