Anyone there? Lost and could do with a shoulder...

[polkadotrocks]

Don't know why am posting this. Parked up with a coffee and wondering what the hell to do.

Can't talk to anyone as everyone thinks we are perfect together. But the stuff that has gone on.... I know we should finish. I love him so much. But I never know one day from the next if I am going to be happy or crying.

How are you doing today OP?

I think, OP, that a lot of people will suspect what really went on. And they won't be thinking 'god, what did polkadots do that will have made him so angry that he had to punch her?' They will be thinking what a nasty piece of work he is. Most people don't blame the abused, they blame the abuser. Anyone who does it the other way round is wrong and not a very nice person.

You need to get away. He is not who he appears to be. And now he has 'broken his duck' so to speak, he will not hesitate to hurt you again. And again. And worse and worse.

OP, people will not hate you for leaving someone who headbuts you in the face. And your excuses about being clumsy probably haven't fooled anyone, they are probably hoping and willing you to leave him.

Please put the safety of yourself and your children first. Having 'got away with it' before, chances are he WILL do it again.

So sorry you are going through this. Keep posting on here, you will receive a lot of practical and emotional support.

Please contact Women's Aid and make sure you and your children are safe.

Thank you everyone for your support and advice.

I am taking action today about this.

I have asked for the thread to be deleted as I am worried it's identifying

Thanks again

No man goes from totally loving and normal to headbutting and punching in the face.
So there must have been other red flags you chose to ignore as well.
Please contact Womens Aid.
This can and will escalate if you let him get away with it.
Get to a police station and report it as well.
He will do this to other women and you can help stop that from happening!

Liverpool ok after yourself and the children OP, you deserve much better

That was meant to say look after yourself!!

I think the first step is to tell someone who will help protect you. You can be addicted to a person just as you can to a drug. He's damaging you as much as crack damages an addict and just like that addict, you want the thing that's so bad for you.

I'd love you to come on here soon to tell us you're away from this man.

Good luck.