What do you & your partner do in the evenings?

[MrsB0310]

My husband & I are not in a good place right now, for various complex & lengthy reasons (I may write a post about it but won't bore you on here). We have 2 kids (7 & 5) & I'm trying to think of things that we can do together in the evenings that is quality time spent together when the kids are in bed & we can't go out. We sit at opposite ends of the sofa most evenings watching TV, which just isn't constructive to a fulfilling relationship.

Thanks

We do puzzles and listen to podcasts
Play silly ps4 games
Watch tv together too

Does your husband want to do things with you?

Shag or play scrabble.

Watching with interest as we are in the same situation. Opposite ends of the sofa usually watching something that one or the other wants, rarely something we both agree on. Go to bed around 9pm normally out of boredom!

Hmmmm...
Cooking together after children in bed? Good time to chat and listen to music maybe.
Gardening? Particularly in this nice weather
Some people will think I'm YUCK for this one... but give him a mini pedicure!?

Play mini pool/snooker (small table)
TV
Board game
Exercise/Yoga
Chat
Go for a walk

At this moment in time, I don't really know if he does. But I'm trying to make the effort to think of things we could do to try & bring us back together again (we aren't separated but things are on the edge).

We play dominoes, potter about the garden, listen to music. I do yoga he watches or does press ups sit ups, watch tv.

Yeah, shag. We do chores together and chat I suppose, have a cup of tea in the garden, or read each other stories off MN or Reddit whilst the other has a shower; that sort of thing.

Play on xbox together
chat while having a drink or some food
watch tv
sex

We paint warhammer models at the same table and chat away about our days.

We play PS4 games in co-op mode

We have friends over

We watch YouTube videos if one of us has seen something that will interest the other

We talk about stuff, often when the tv is on in the background

I think that’s the problem here, it’s not the activity it’s the not talking

I think talking is the key here. DH and I are retired now and often in separate rooms pursuing our own hobbies/interests in the evening and usually watching different TV programs although there are a few we both like. We try to sit down and talk over a cuppa or dinner/lunch a few times each day. Remembering back to when we had young kids we sometimes used to play cards as we didn't have the money to go out much and once a week tried to find a film we both enjoyed over a bottle of wine. Do you have any common interests?