Pregnant and Separating

[Daisychain141]

Dear Mummies

I have been in an unhealthy controlling relationship for many years. I have an 15 month old son and have just found out I am pregnant again, 12 weeks in. I have tried endless to work with my partner and make thing better, but it is not happening, there is simply no reasoning with him, or changing his controlling ways. I know deep down that it will be better for our son if we separate, as it is not good for him to see his mummy being put down and spoken down to all the time.
But I keep hanging in there, longer and longer, hoping and hoping, trying to see the good bits a a reason to stay.
Also having found out that I am pregnant again, I am scared at the thought of bringing home a new baby on my own, which i am sure sound silly. Especially as my partner had no involvement with our son for the first 6 months, so i did it all.
I know separating will make everyone's lives better in the long run, but i am so scared.
Has anyone else been through similar? Have any wise words, of how to grow a pair of balls and do what is right for me and my son and the new baby.
thank you x

well you already raised a baby on your own so you might as well do it officially save you feeling disappointed! do you have a good support network?

you can do it you already know it's the right thing to do - show your DC how strong their momma is cc

I havent but wanted to say good luck, happy pregnancy and well done for having the courage to do the best by your 2 kids. You'll find a way with 2 they will be eternally gratefully you left a controlling OH 💐

thank's for your support mummy's :)

Absolutely 100% better to be a single mum than be in an unhealthy r/ship with a controlling, domineering man.

You'll need support though, 'it takes a village to raise a child'... I guess you already have some sort of network through your 15 month old? Family nearby?

How will you be financially? Make sure you get full info and advice on the tax credits you might be entitled to.

All the best.