Financial problems

[Rosepetals11]

Been living with my in laws for a year and half since we’ve been married because we don’t have the money to rent or buy a place of our own.
Im not happy where I am living and it doesn’t look like we’re going to be able to move out anytime soon.

It makes me want to give up and just move back into my mums house because that’s where I’m happy the most.

Am I being unfair?

He’s tried to trade in the stock market to make money but he’s lost it all and now I feel like we’ve got no hope.
His parents are dictators and won’t let him work anywhere else other than their own family business which doesn’t pay enough and I feel like his parents has our life in their hands I hate it!

Do you work?

Yes I work full time and he works 6 days we don’t even have a day off together :(

OP wrote: "His parents are dictators and won’t let him work anywhere else other than their own family business".

Are you in the UK? How do his parents prevent him from working elsewhere? Does he not have references from previous employment?

Do you work? Do you want to move to your mother's so that you can gather money for a deposit so you and your DH can move on without the co-operation of his family. Or do you want to end your relationship with DH?

Yes we live in London and of course everything in London is expensive!
We can try to save for a deposit but it would take years and years and we’d still have to to be living here in order to save ofc.
In our culture the girl usually has to live with their DH’s family unfortunately.
He has worked elsewhere but the pay wasn’t that great so he left it.

His parents can actually help us they even have enough money to buy us a place but his dad is really selfish and wants us to earn the way he did 30 years ago! He’s an evil man

"In our culture the girl usually has to live with their DH’s family unfortunately"

Not all women have to live with their inlaws after marriage, this is what you and your H have been conditioned to believe. I presume his parents have also lined you up to be their future carer.

How do you see your life being played out here with both your H and his parents going forward?. He is tied to his abusive parents and they will not let him go. You are both in for more of the same if you and in turn he cannot escape their abuse.