Boyfriend looking up ex on facebook, every day

[Natalie2182]

Hi,
I know it is wrong and if you look for something you will find it but my ex cheated on me, started a long distance (mostly online) relationship with someone else, contacted prostitutes, responded to Craigslist ads and sent inappropriate messages to female friends - doesn't excuse what I've done but it does show my mind set.
I'm with a new partner and he has a daughter with his ex. They didn't end of the best terms 5 years ago, she led him on and I think he has never really had closure on their relationship.
Before anyone says it, I know this is wrong and I shouldn't do it but, I check his facebook search history and every single day he looks up his ex's profile.
He is on holiday at the moment and just yesterday he looked her up 6 times! 3 times the day before and at least once per day, every single day.
What do I do? Do I own up to what I have done and confront him? Why would he keep needing to look at her profile? I'm really confused.

OP, from the sound of it, he's not your BF, he is still her Ex, IYSWIM.

It doesn't read as if either of you is displaying the respectful behaviour of someone who is in a committed, loving relationship.

You could talk to him tho' I imagine it would be a difficult conversation to manage. Maybe say that you have sensed that you have different levels of commitment to your relationship, that he's hung up with his Ex, and that it's causing you substantial trust issues because of your past history.

If he lies, I doubt that telling him you looked up his Facebook history would be well received. You could ask him to show you but...

Reading it over, does this sound like a relationship with a future for either of you?

Maybe he is looking up to see his daughter rather than his ex? How is his relationship with his daughter? Is his ex in a new relationship? Why did their relationship end ? How old was the child then?

If they have a child together, I would assume he’s either looking at photos of his child or using Facebook to message her. Neither of those things sounds odd to me if they are co-parenting.