Dh and i having problems went to counselling recognised one of the things he does is constantly expect to be blamed for things or "got at" when that isnt the case.
Supposed to be working on it. Claims to have accepted it incident happened the other day where ds had an allergic reaction to something was screaming in the bathroom I asked dh to get medicine he couldnt find it kept asking me which one so I ran out bathroom to get it slipped and cracked my head on the wall and hit the ground. Instead of helping dh was just standing over me going on and on about how it was my own fault not his. I eventually got ds sorted ds who was still screaming ignoring dh rant. When I did respond I was so angry It ended up in an argument and I just left him and went to bed.
Spoke to him about it next day and he said the counselling doesnt work its a load of nonsense and im never going to change he doesnt know what my problem is. I wont let him speak his mind and am always blaming him for things.
I did not once say the fall was his fault but that I was hurt that he was so concerned with whose fault it was that he didnt help or even ask how I was.The fall was bad I now have a black eye. He briefly appologised for not helping but then started on about how if ds hadnt been screaming none of this would have happened.
Im just at my wits end I cant live like this when such things dont happen we are fine but any mildly stressfull incident e.g we got lost on our way to a party couple of weeks ago and I pointed out we where going i the wrong direction he says im getting at him.
Dont know what advice i am looking for just dont know what the hell to do for the best.