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Advice on relationship please? At breaking point..

8 replies

Lotte954 · 26/06/2018 02:30

Evening ladies, I've not used this site for a few years because I was expecting and needed advice (i sadly didn't have the child in the end)

But im back and in need of Advice Sad

Basically my bf of 7 months, we are having problems and I have a few issues with how he treats me.

He made it clear he wanted me at first, dates, making an effort, complimenting me and for one minute, never thought I would be questioning his intentions with me.

After we slept together he admitted having a shady past (i understood but it felt as if he was bragging about sleeping with loads of women) my ex had the same sort of history and he cheated
So it set alarm bells ringing, we are long distance because he's in the army which makes it even worse.

He would always bring girls up, or be messaging a girl who looked shady, having a female best friend who he used to date (they act very flirty, my best friend said it's not normal) she's even said to him our relationship Is rubbing her face in it. We had drama over another girl because he wanted to fuck her Sad after arguing and how much grief he caused me.

Im no Angel I've ranted to friends about him and he's seen the messages
I even said yes to a date when I was single (me and my bf split because he told another girl he wanted to fuck her)
I feel guilty but he just doesn't make me feel worthwhile or loved.
He was the first to mention moving in together and he asked me to be serious
Even the first to say I love you
But he was taking the piss with his friend saying he's a commitment phobe and doesn't like attachment

He gets away with so much but wouldn't even allow me to wear a skirt on a night out.

He's made me look crazy to everyone even though people mention he's gaslighting me

He's called me numerous names during arguments
Like slag, crazy, psycho, stupid and sensitive.

Broke up with me so much
Think the worst argument we had was when he wanted his Mate to message a girl for him to fuck her
I broke up with him and tried to leave
He ignored me and said cba

When my bf did take me home, he was shouting at me, driving recklessly all I did was ask him why he thinks it's ok to do that to me

He said nobody likes You, I don't love you, your crazy, too sensitive

He threatened to throw me out the car so I tried leaving
He began shouting at me again and took my phone away

Tried to throw it out the window and I begged for it back
He said he will hit me and punched the dashboard.

I was so scared but forgive him

He's gone away for two months and he's already acting shady and distant
We have broke up because I mentioned my ex
Because he asked

Long story short he split up with me, accused me of cheating (me and my ex have been split for 3 yeaes) he accused me of cheating with someone else and broke up with me to teach me a lesson
Within 10 mins he had added me back and demanded an answer

Im back with him because I love him but im fed up.Confused

OP posts:
IsDaveThere · 26/06/2018 07:20

How can you love such a twat who treats you like this? What part of this relationship exactly is making you happy?

You need to get this idiot out of your life for good.

JazzyJelly · 26/06/2018 07:22

Good lord, you should have left him within the first few lines of that post.

NomsQualityStreets · 26/06/2018 07:26

What could you possibly love about that peace of crap excuse of a man?

buddahbelly · 26/06/2018 07:29

I feel guilty but he just doesn't make me feel worthwhile or loved.

I've not read past this part.

Get rid. For this sentence alone this guy is not worth your time or worries anymore. Please realise that it may be hard at first but you will look back on this time in your life and wonder why you wasted so much time and effort!!

BlondeB83 · 26/06/2018 07:29

You are in a controlling and abusive relationship with a monster. Posting on here is good, please do all you can to get as far away from this awful man as possible. This is not love, it’s delusion.

Flowers
combatbarbie · 26/06/2018 07:36

Read your post back..... army or not, he sounds like a complete bell end. Get rid!!!!

Afterthestorm · 26/06/2018 07:37

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SandyY2K · 26/06/2018 07:40

Get out if this controlling relationship and stop wasting your time.

There's nothing remotely attractive about a man like him.

You need to figure out why you allow yourself to be treated like this.

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