A friend of a year finally admitted he had feelings for me in Jan and was scared to do anything in case he messed up and lost me. I asked to take it slow as I know he struggles with emotions but he moved it on and asked for more and it was great until his job went mental and he was working everyday, he was exhausted and busy all the time. He always spent his free time with me, one night I decided to try get him to open up and asked how he felt about me and he burst out he had no feelings, as he has no emotions so he can't get hurt, obviously I was devastated as it implies he lied and used me and we broke up in a really odd way.
Took the necessary no contact time and then he phoned, I waited a few days to return the call and we spoke friendly I told him that he had to explain what he did, telling me he had feelings and building a relationship and he can't answer it. Since then we have spoke on the phone for an hour or so a few times. He volunteered to help me move. On Saturday i called to ask about something and he was in the pub watching footie with mates told him I'd kill for a pint and he said he'd come to give him half an hour to finish with the fellas. We spent 6 hours together, he didn't rush away even when I bought up the way he ended things. Though he def looked panicked, he made a comment that everyone fucks up and that he doesn't know how to deal with emotions but that he had missed me. We left with what must be the most awkward hug in human history. When I got home he was texting to see if I got home safe and that if i needed to store anything to let him know. Left it there.
And I'm in a state of confusion normally when things go wrong he cuts the person out completely and puts his head in the sand so I'm shocked he met me and moreso that didn't rush out when the talk popped up. But is this just his way of being friends?
Sorry it's so long but I'm Irish and bring succinct and to the point is not in our genes, nor is understanding men for that matter. Thoughts much appreciated.