Wedding

[kaz86]

My partner and I have been together 15 years, and have 3 children. The only reason we have not got married is because our family is complicated.
We are thinking of just booking a reception office and signing on the dotted line and then going on holiday. I have anxiety too so don't fancy being stared at or the stress of a party (our families apart from my mum doesn't bother any way). I just want him to be my husband and us all to have the same surname. The wedding doesn't seem a big deal to me just being married is. We have been engaged for 8 years and have not done it because of invites and families etc and money!

Your idea sounds perfect. You don't need the big bells and whistles wedding to be married. Congratulations.

If that's what you want and I hat you'd be happy with then do it.
Personally i wanted the big traditional wedding and would never have settled for anything but. But that's just me. Doesn't mean it's for everyone.

I don't think we could have a big wedding we have difficult families, they have not even ever met! My mum has mental health issues, she is very kind, however says lots of innapropriate things. My partners mum is very snobby and is very rude. His mum has never helped us out. Actually the first 4 years of our relationship she pretended I didn't exist!!!
I honestly just want to be Mrs..... all this waiting seems crazy

You can have a wedding with 2 witnesses for about £45 I think.

Just do it. Sounds perfect for you.

Registry office indeed sounds perfect for you, now, do it sooner rather than later. Get an appointment made and understand what documentation you need to show right away.

Just go for it! What matters is being married, not the wedding day. My friend did this with just her kids and husband last year for similar reasons to you, it was right for them. Announce when you’re back from holiday.

Sounds very sensible to me. What's stopping you?

We did something very similar but we actually got married on holiday in Devon, just 5 of us. It was perfect. Two of our 3 dc were our witnesses, they don't have to 16 or older btw, they just have to be old enough to know that what they are signing is important. Would that work for you?

Go for it, you won't regret it

You don't even have to tell anyone if you don't want. I was bullied (young and didn't know any better) into a wedding i didn't want by overbearing in-laws. Do what you and your partner want.

This is not unusual. We've been to two registry office weddings over the years where we've been the only guests and acted as witnesses. Why are you questioning your preferences? Are others putting pressure on you for a bigger wedding?

Sounds lovely. I've had friends who did it your way and loved it. Your family, your rules, OP.