I’m unhappy in my marriage, have been for ages. We have a dc, nearly 6. When I was 7 months pregnant it came to light that he was heavily into scatology (wee and poo sex) and has been using the computer to download images of this. Some of the images were of university aged students (we are both in our late 30s, these girls were of the ‘barely legal’ type iyswim). We very nearly broke up at that time as I was disgusted by his behaviour. It’s always hung over my head since then and I’ve never been 100% happy. I’ve just discovered he’s got a second Facebook profile under a fake name, although there’s not much on the profile I can’t get into messenger to see if he’s been messaging people or not. I know he’s got 31 unread notifications so it’s a profile he must be using in some way.
Tbh i want to leave but there’s an added complication - I live abroad and I don’t know how to get Dd out of the country and back to the uk. I have no income in my own right and, due to visa issues, I can’t work in my own right here, so I can’t stay here with DD. However I’m sure oh told me that in this country only the father has PR and I need his permission to take DD home (which would not be forthcoming).
I’m royally shafted, aren’t I? Anyone got any advice?