Nc’d
I’m a sahm to 2 dc. Ds1 is 6 with additional needs. Ds2 is 2 and a nightmare sleeper. Between them I probably get 2 hours solid sleep a night and then I’m up at least once an hour the rest of the night.
Dh works long hours and I do not expect or ask him to help Sunday-Thursday nights as I know he needs to sleep. But at the weekends he just won’t help me at all. As soon as the first wake up happens he just gets up and goes and sleeps in the guest room downstairs. I have asked, I have begged, I have cried and said I’m close to walking out and leaving my family because I just need to fucking sleep. When I do that he will get up the first time he hears movement, get into the dc’s bed with dc's and immediately fall asleep again. Dc will be wandering around and I know he’ll have just gone back to sleep. Then he’ll spend the next day acting like a fucking hero because he apparently did the night shift l.
He claims it’s because he’s a deep sleeper and just doesn’t realise dc are up. Which I’d understand if he didn’t always go into the spare room and the first sign of stirring. He asked me this morning if I was ok as I looked exhausted. I said I was and that I was up for 4 hours straight with dc2 last night. He looked really surprised and said ‘Oh, I didn’t realise he was still doing that.’ He does it every night, I think it’s more that it just doesn’t occur to dh that it’s a problem because it doesn’t directly affect him.
I’m sure this is just a phase and one day both my dc will sleep at night. But right now I don’t think I can forgive dh for just not giving a fuck about it. Everyone just tells me that it’s hard when dc are young and that I’ll look back and laugh. It’s probably sleep deprivation but there are times that I hate him.