Break up

[Devastated10]

I've made such a mistake and I'm devastated about it! Guy I've been seeing for 6 months has been really busy with work recently and unable to make much time for me. I've just broken up with him saying I couldn't handle seeing him that little. He went along with it and now we're done. I'm gutted. I wish I'd just appreciated the little time we had rather than throw the whole lot away. I know there's no going back from this - it's definitely ruined. So angry with myself. Just want the hurt to stop already! I'm so stupid.

You're not stupid. You broke up with him for a valid reason, you weren't happy with what you were getting from the relationship. It's very normal to get the fear a bit after it's done.

Unless you were just hoping to provoke him into making more time for you?

I was hoping he would say he would make more time for me. So yes I really am stupid - why why why did I do it like that? He was so amazing!

Now it's over I realise I totally should have appreciated the times I got, not focus on what I couldn't have!

Hugs. It is natural to feel sad after a break up, even one you instigated. And no, you shouldn't just have appreciated the time you did have together - you will find someone else who will give you the time and attention that you need. Let yourself feel whatever you need to feel - then move on.

He made me feel so special in the early days and was absolutely amazing in bed - I know I will never find someone else like him. I wish I could turn back time and not have done this.

Well you shouldn't play games with people. If you didn't want yo break up you shouldn't have said you did, now you have to live with the consequences. I'm confused why you didn't just tell him you wanted him to make more of an effort and make time.

There was probably very little he felt he could do as be was unwilling to step back from work demands for a relatively new relationship. Or he's been the victim of gameplaying in the past and has no time for it...

I have asked several times before and he said he would try. But then a few weeks went by with no seeing him. I know I am stupid. Looking back I should have just stuck it out with the text conversations. Because they made me happy!

If he was so amazing he wouldn't have let you go xx

Sorry to say, you just weren't important enough to him. If you had been, he would have moved heaven and earth to make you happy and keep you. He just wasn't that much into you. You'll find the right man one day, but it's not him.

Well you have two options - be honest and tell him you made a mistake, or accept it and move on - you will find someone lovely who has more time for you.

Yep agree with @MyKingdomForBrie

But I also agree that if he was that into it he'd have tried to make it work so I think it's best you leave it

Sorry OP it sucks but it wouldn't have been worth you faking it and pretending you were happy with the odd messages

Thank you for your messages all - appreciate you taking the time to talk to me about this.

Have you considered this is what he wanted. I have male friends who has donte this, backed right off in the hope it fizzles out or that she ends it, just to avoind confrontation. Its not nice but some men will just do anything to avoid that 'its not working for me' speach.
It sounds like he kind of realised it wasnt what he wanted and he just wasnt that into it.
Men can be arses (no argument there right) but IME if they are into someone they go all out to see them.
A relationship does not consist of weeks without seeing eachother, a text arrrangement is v different to an actual relationship, especially so early on. At 6 months (if both parties were into it) you would both be moving heaven and earth even for a few hours together. If he wasnt making ths effort to do that (bacuase lets face it no one works 24/7 every week) then he either didnt care enough or just didnt have the time to put the effort in to progress a relationship.
In either case that wont change. You gave him.the oppotunity to change and improve things, he either couldnt or simply chose not to, that only left you with one option. To decide you want and are worth more and move on to find someone who can meet your needs.
Its better to do that now than settle for less for another 6 months. Mark it up to experience, brush yourself down and get on with making yourself happy. I know you feel rubbish now but 6 months is such a short time in the grand scheme of things. This time last year you didnt even know he existed, by the end of the year he will be a distant memory